Comments on: A Privacy Policy

By: Viola

Viola — Wed, 02 Dec 2009 02:58:57 +0000

Hi, I´m a new reader to your blog, thanks for sharing what you do- PLUS your thoughtfulness regarding your son and husband- just- may I ask, how old Zeb ist?
Kind regards from Berlin, Germany,
Viola.

By: hillary

hillary — Wed, 02 Dec 2009 01:39:00 +0000

I really love how we are able to process this together. Learning from one another’s families and experiences and checking in to see if it feels right on us or if something needs to change.

This whole social media thing is quite new and as we navigate it with our families I think the best thing we can do is to simply stay mindful and true to ourselves and those we love.

Thanks so much for sharing where you guys are at on this issue.

By: Amy @ Six Flower Mom

Amy @ Six Flower Mom — Tue, 01 Dec 2009 21:03:35 +0000

This is great! I too ask my children before posting — so far they are all great about it!

By: Jasie VanGesen

Jasie VanGesen — Tue, 01 Dec 2009 18:00:22 +0000

(continued) And while I really cherish that being open about his diagnosis has helped families in similar situations… it’s not my main focus. My main focus is him. And I don’t want that label to hurt him in his life instead of help… and by being so open, it could hurt people’s perception of him down the line.

By: Jasie VanGesen

Jasie VanGesen — Tue, 01 Dec 2009 17:58:56 +0000

I’m glad you posted this. Silas doesn’t mind me writing about him and at this age is really excited when he sees a picture of himself on the blog… but I do wonder, as he gets older… will he get less comfortable with it? Will I have to change how I do things to not violate his boundaries? I’ve been contemplating removing/editing any of the posts or tidbits that mention his bi-polar diagnosis. I’m getting to a point where yes, that label helps us in our family, to know how to best support him.

By: TheOrganicSister

TheOrganicSister — Tue, 01 Dec 2009 17:21:53 +0000

Thanks Julie! For Zeb he is usually less concerned about photos (he just wants to make sure they meet his standards of “good”!) and neither of them worry about identifying info. I guess he is just more introverted than I am. It’s a hard balance to strike, for sure and thankfully Zeb doesn’t want me to take down old posts.. But it’s great that you’ve got a head start. I’m sure they will appreciate your thoughtfulness in the future.

By: julie

julie — Tue, 01 Dec 2009 14:19:16 +0000

I’m really glad you posted this, as it’s helped me make a decision I’ve been considering for sometime. When I started blogging I resolved never to refer to the children by their name, nor my husband by his full name, and not to give out too many details about where we are,and not to photograph the children either. As time has gone by, and I’ve made connections in the blogosphere, I’ve given out more info, and have really enjoyed reading blogs like yours, which have photos with you and your (gorgeous) family in. I started to feel that I wanted to be more personal and was seriously considering starting to include ‘identifying’ photos in my posts, but having read what you have to say, and how Zeb feels, I think I’m going to stick with my current way of doing things – my son is not quite old enough to know/care much at the moment, but it won’t be long before he and his friends can google, and I wouldn’t want him embarassed by what I write, or worse, teased or bullied. It’s hard to know what to do for the best, but I really respect your decision and how close you all are as a family that you can discuss this properly, and that everyone’s wishes are taken into account to find a solution that works for you all. You are, as always, an inspiration.

By: Deb

Deb — Tue, 01 Dec 2009 13:46:37 +0000

I’m working on this – I know Eli is not a baby anymore and my goal is to always ask him. I’m getting far closer to the goal of always asking and that brings about a certain peace for me for which I am grateful.

By: rachel whetzel

rachel whetzel — Tue, 01 Dec 2009 07:45:00 +0000

I always check with the boys too… because it IS about them, and their friends could find my blog pretty easily these days… (esp my oldest) just by googling my name.