Something Only For Yourself

When was the last time you had something only for you? Not something you did because you “should” do it… Not something you love and decide to turn into a business on the side… Not something you teach… Maybe something you don’t even share with the world? I’ve got entrepreneur in my blood. I’ve never had something I wasn’t sharing with the world. So in answers to the question of whether or not I’m going to be selling or teaching art at some point in the future, first let me say…hahahahahahahahaha. As if I know what I’m doing enough to share much of anything. And second, no. In fact, I’m consciously working on nurturing this as something I don’t “share”, don’t teach, don’t sell. It’s something just for me. To feed my soul. To nurture me. It’s mine, and maybe I’ll show my process from time to time, but only…

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“They say you find yourself in your 30’s.”

I’ve been having a lot of conversations with myself lately. Not the kind I normally have; they’ve evolved into something quiet and still and full of observation without words. They come instead with color and texture and movement and breath. With messy hands and a messy kitchen. With exposed shoulders and wisps of hair. With clutter and cleaning. My hands, my feet, my heart….they all want to be moving. My husband said something that is hanging with me as maybe what is going on: “They say you find yourself in your 30’s.” And then I had to ask him how old I was, because I couldn’t recall if it was 31 or 32. But I can recall my 20’s. My years of building structures, and tearing down walls. My years of rummaging through old photo boxes I kept locked in my mind, only to find the elements had damaged most…

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Thoughts on Parenting for Show

If you haven’t read it already, this commentary on the public humiliation of children that has become so prevalent in the social media age of parenting is well worth reading and absorbing. Public shaming is awful and is nothing less than societally sanctioned parental bullying. Especially harmful to the young people against whom it is used as a weapon, the ramifications will resonate throughout their lives. They aren’t as tough as we pretend we are. (Read the whole thing here.) In addition to what is so eloquently said there, I think it’s important to examine why so many parents feel the need to “parent publicly”. Is it to “prove ourselves”? To save face? To feel validated? To make a statement to others? None of these puts our real focus on showing up in our children’s lives (both for their struggles and their wins). Interestingly, many parents I know will recoil…

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Heeding the Siren and Letting Everything Go (big changes for 2014)

We are not enlightened by what we speak, but rather what speaks to us. Yet we pass truth around, instead of letting it pass through us. These were the words I wrote over a year ago, words that went ringing in my ears, setting into motion a train that’s only now pulling into station, that last sentence like the line of cars being pulled along, showing itself to me again and again. I want to try – possibly unsuccessfully – to explain how it’s changed me and what that means for this space. Be patient, please…and be gentle… —— We watch as wisdom flashes across our screen – a quote, a message, a reminder, a graphic – some ancient knowledge speaking to us, jolting us awake from our day-to-day shuffle, but we fail to let it permeate us, to sink in through muscle and bone, to the marrow of our…

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Win a Copy of Digging Into 2014!

Do you know what’s not so awesome about Facebook? They have this fun little algorithm that makes it difficult for certain things to get SEEN. Case in point? My giveaway on Facebook has gone out to nearly 10,000 but has less traction than a photo of a Yoga snowflake. So thanks for that Facebook. Because of it, I extended the entry deadline, so more people who want a chance to win, can have it. #yay What is Digging Into 2014? It’s a process of tuning in to Spirit Of NOT playing games with the Ego To understand the past year, what it was for, what it was trying to teach you, so you can stop experiencing it again and again And to create your world from your heart, not your head (cuz we all know how THAT turns out) You can read all about it here. And you can enter…

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Let’s stop living the same year over and over, yes?

We’ve all had those years… …the ones that seem to play on repeat… …the ones that whoosh by before we’ve even had the opportunity to say “Happy New Year”… …the ones that leave us dizzy, maybe disillusioned, almost always exhausted and disappointed… Let’s break that cycle, shall we? It’s not as hard as you think. In fact, Life tends to do most of the hard work. Your part of the deal? listen in. create with intention. realign yourself. and then get out of your own way. Today I’m setting loose into the world a brand new e-guide: Digging Into 2014: Discovering Your Guiding Word. The process is one of both closure for the path behind you, and guidance for the path ahead. It’s NOT like other ego-based processes out there where it’s all about “what you want to get out of life” and “let’s kick life’s butt to make it…

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Crazy Moments are Just Crazy Moments (A Message From My Past Self)

Pssst! I’ve got a brand new e-guide coming out on December 9th. Signup for my newsletter to get first dibs! I love when I write things on my blog or Facebook or elsewhere in this case, only to find them a week, a month, 6 months later and at just the right time. It’s like wisdom to myself, from myself, and always in the perfect timing. This happened to me awhile back. Skype wasn’t working for a very important parenting e-course interview, with a very important person. I was swimming in my own triggers of “not being good enough” after some hoped-for cash didn’t come in. I was coming off a meltdown over improperly buttered toast. Yeah, it wasn’t good. Then I got an email from myself, something I had scheduled a year before when I was feeling a lot of exhaustion and hoping it was coming to an end…

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Gratitude Is All That’s Left (when we stop trying so hard)

It’s Thanksgiving week. Our little family of three is planning our dinner and a long weekend, disconnected from the ‘puters and connecting with the tangible world. We have yet to finish building our table. We’ve yet to find a couch we love. So we’ll be eating our meal in a camping chair. And we’re okay with that. We have new friends offering us furniture, but we’ve happily declined. Vast and empty space is a luxury we’re not willing to give up. But more than that I recognized something in my past that’s no longer there: the urge to “settle”. We can spend years of our lives settling for things that don’t light us up, don’t make us happy, don’t inspire us. Sometimes we do it “for now” and sometimes we do it forever. And sometimes “for now” turns into “forever”, because that’s how we humans work – firmly within our…

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