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		<title>5 Reasons To Share A Photo of Your Ass With The World</title>
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		<pubDate>Sun, 05 Feb 2012 18:27:29 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[Tiffani from freeplaylife challenged women everywhere to do it. And really that should be enough said, but in case you&#8217;re still unsure&#8230; It freaks out your conservative side&#8230;If you think there is ANYTHING inappropriate about sharing a photo of a women&#8217;s body I encourage you to think again. (And what&#8217;s the difference between your undies [...]]]></description>
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<li><strong><a href="http://freeplaylife.com/2012/02/asses-up-bitches/">Tiffani from freeplaylife</a> challenged women everywhere to do it.</strong> And really that should be enough said, but in case you&#8217;re still unsure&#8230;</li>
<li><strong>It freaks out your conservative side&#8230;</strong>If you think there is ANYTHING inappropriate about sharing a photo of a women&#8217;s body I encourage you to think again. (And what&#8217;s the difference between your undies and your bathing suit?)</li>
<li><strong>You&#8217;re worried what others will think&#8230;</strong>I&#8217;ve spent too much time there. And I realized that I could be authentic with everyone about Who I Am and what I believe, or not really be authentic at all.</li>
<li><strong>You&#8217;re rattling off all the reasons you think your ass isn&#8217;t &#8220;good enough&#8221; to share&#8230;</strong>I see your self-depreciation and raise you a scar, and stretch marks. Self-love means loving all of you. Start practicing.</li>
<li><strong>You&#8217;re a male and think you can&#8217;t join&#8230;</strong>Meet my husband. His motto: &#8220;Asses that play together, stay together.&#8221;</li>
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<p>I wasn&#8217;t planning on joining in. Until I heard all the women who thought they couldn&#8217;t or shouldn&#8217;t. And nothing sparks my interest like challenging the Shoulds and Cants.</p>
<p>I have a four inch scar across my hip and stretch marks covering the span. I also have long toes, a bald spot on my head, knobby knees, adult braces, an uneven ribcage, protruding shoulder blades and another 18 inch scar down my spine.</p>
<p>Inspired by my favorite line in Fried Green Tomatoes&#8230;</p>
<p><strong>And I don&#8217;t give a good goddamm!</strong></p>
<h1>I choose to love myself BECAUSE of these things.</h1>
<p>It doesn&#8217;t matter if you think your ass is too wide, or too dimply, or too whatever else your self-doubt and downright rudeness has to say about your incredible body.</p>
<p>It&#8217;s not about having a &#8220;nice ass&#8221;&#8230;it&#8217;s about challenging our ideas of what nice means.</p>
<p>It&#8217;s about telling the media portrayal of &#8220;nice&#8221; that WE LOVE OUR BODIES just the way they are, for the incredible, wonderful, miraculous things they can do FOR US, not for the male fantasy.</p>
<p>Don&#8217;t take a photo of your ass <a href="http://facebook.com/freeplaylife">to share with Tiffani</a>. Take a photo to CHALLENGE yourself.</p>
<p>Challenge yourself to love all of you so much that you&#8217;ll share it with others. Challenge what you say you believe, but don&#8217;t live out loud. Challenge the fears of others while you&#8217;re at it.</p>
<p>Because like Christine pointed out, it&#8217;s all about the NamASSte. Seeing the beautiful and divine in each of us&#8230;including ourselves.</p>
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		<title>Burning My Dreads: The Final Goodbye</title>
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		<pubDate>Fri, 13 Jan 2012 22:25:51 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>TheOrganicSister</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[I assumed when I cut my dreads I would still have to let them go afterward. I pictured myself spending time reflecting on them as I burned them or buried them. I pictured it being ceremonious and personal and meaningful. Yup, not so much. From the moment I turned around from checking out my bald [...]]]></description>
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<p>I assumed when I cut my dreads I would still have to let them go afterward. I pictured myself spending time reflecting on them as I burned them or buried them. I pictured it being ceremonious and personal and meaningful.</p>
<p>Yup, not so much.</p>
<p>From the moment I turned around from checking out my bald head in the reflection of the truck&#8217;s window and <a href="http://www.flickr.com/photos/childplay/6586631361/in/set-72157628490334445" target="_blank">saw my pile of dreads laying on the ground</a>, I&#8217;ve had no attachment to them.</p>
<p>They felt so distant, like looking at a relic of my past…once a part of me, now just a detail in my story.</p>
<p><strong>Maybe it&#8217;s because it wasn&#8217;t the dreads that I had so much gratitude for, but the experience of them.<br />
</strong><br />
Or maybe once I do take the next step it&#8217;s when I feel ready to truly let go of the last.</p>
<p>Or maybe cutting them off cut that tie to the heavy energy they were carrying for me.</p>
<p>I don&#8217;t know.</p>
<p><em>All I know is that my dreads have been wrapped up in one of my favorite white scarves and I&#8217;d like my scarf back now! <img src='http://theorganicsister.com/wp-includes/images/smilies/icon_wink.gif' alt=';)' class='wp-smiley' /> </em></p>
<p>We spent last week camping with such gorgeous, soulful, <a href="http://www.ecowomb.com/" target="_blank">conscious friends</a> and I thought maybe it&#8217;d be meaningful (and in good company) to release them then, around the fire or in the lake.</p>
<p>So I grabbed a couple and threw them in the water and laughed at the idea of someone&#8217;s dog finding them.</p>
<p>Then I grabbed a small handful of my dreadlocks to burn in the fire.</p>
<p>(I thought about burning them all, but wasn&#8217;t sure just how much hair smelled when being burned, so I opted against stinking everyone out just yet.)</p>
<p>And there I stood.</p>
<p><strong>Standing under the full moon, twisting five dreads around each other and waiting in front of the heat of the flames, waiting for some sense of ceremony or rush of emotion or depth of experience to come to me.</strong></p>
<p>And it didn&#8217;t.</p>
<p>So I smiled and gave my heart a hug for its powerful ability to release without doubt or second-guessing or need for fanfare and I tossed them in and watched them sizzle and burn (and yes, human hair smells badly when burned).</p>
<p><a title="Released five dreadies into the fire tonight :) http://instagr.am/p/fqLYN/ by TheOrganicSister, on Flickr" href="http://www.flickr.com/photos/26696967@N03/6665039765/"><img src="http://farm8.staticflickr.com/7147/6665039765_5395944180.jpg" alt="Released five dreadies into the fire tonight :) http://instagr.am/p/fqLYN/" width="500" height="500" /></a></p>
<p>I had 40 dreads to begin with.</p>
<p>Two went to a soul sister, two to the lake and five to the fire. 31 are still occupying one of my favorite scarves and waiting to be sent off.</p>
<p>I&#8217;ve been thinking how I&#8217;d like to finally release the rest and the fire still calls to me. But maybe this time I&#8217;ll go it alone and see if they have any last words of wisdom to whisper to me in the stillness. And maybe I won&#8217;t. Maybe I&#8217;ll just get on with the freedom and laughter I&#8217;ve been enjoying instead.</p>
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<h2>Want to read more about my process from dreadlocks to a shaved head?</h2>
<p><a href="http://theorganicsister.com/tag/dreadlocks/" target="_blank">All dreadlock posts from start to finish are here.</a></p>
<p><a href="http://theorganicsister.com/part-one-releasing-and-letting-go/" target="_blank">Part One: My announcement video of my decision to shave my dreads</a></p>
<p><a href="http://theorganicsister.com/part-two-its-not-about-the-dreads-its-about-the-process-video/">Part Two: A more in-depth, emotional and raw video on my decision</a></p>
<p><a href="http://theorganicsister.com/shaving-my-head/" target="_blank">Part Three: Putting The Process of Shaving Them into Words (and lots of photos)</a></p>
<p><a href="http://theorganicsister.com/cutting-my-dreadlocks/" target="_blank">Part Four: A GORGEOUS Video and words from other women who&#8217;ve done the same</a></p>
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		<title>&#8220;Surviving&#8221; Sucks. Get The Holiday Thriving Kit!</title>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 07 Dec 2011 01:28:37 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>TheOrganicSister</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Let me tell you how this Holiday Surviving Thriving Kit all began. I was freaking overwhelmed. I had a plate piled high and my mind wandering off in 14 different directions all at once &#8211; quite painful, I might add. I was finding myself feeling unrooted, scattered, unable to be present or feel authentic. (Not [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Let me tell you how this Holiday <del datetime="2011-12-07T01:18:59+00:00">Surviving</del> Thriving Kit all began.</p>
<p>I was freaking overwhelmed. I had a plate piled high and my mind wandering off in 14 different directions all at once &#8211; quite painful, I might add.</p>
<p>I was finding myself feeling unrooted, scattered, unable to be present or feel authentic. (Not authentically overwhelmed; I had that covered. But authentically my real self: grounded, kind, patient, compassionate.)</p>
<p><strong>So I began to practice my own mindfulness meditation.</strong></p>
<p>I would practice it in the tiny slivers of a moment between the action and my reaction.</p>
<p>I would practice it after it all took place.</p>
<p>But soon I found I wanted to practice it outside the moments all together, so that I could get firm in it before the world shook beneath my feet.</p>
<p><strong>So I created a Guided Mindfulness Meditation for myself.</strong></p>
<p>No intentions of sharing it. I created it just for me. And I practiced it.</p>
<p>And it was goooood.</p>
<p>I felt myself settling in&#8230;feeling rooted, grounded in mindfulness and the benefits of it.</p>
<p>I felt the chatter of my mind start to fade as I practiced listening deeper in and out of the most overwhelming days.</p>
<p>And as I sank deeper into my own mindfulness, it began to ripple around me.</p>
<p>My sweet husband, Justin, began to breathe with me, to reflect back to me the inner work I was doing and to organically begin to practice it himself. Even Zeb, at 12, started to notice and would begin to reflect it back for me, asking me how I was feeling when he saw my tension rise, unconsciously giving me that gentle reminder to move into mindfulness.</p>
<h1>But it&#8217;s effectiveness truly showed itself during one of Life&#8217;s trials.</h1>
<p>It was when we had a really hard couple days, when some really challenging things threatened to shake us up, when my ability to remain grounded was tested to the extreme and I knew my ability to remain mindful meant the difference between total success and total failure within the situation.</p>
<p>It was exhausting, and emotionally heartbreaking and took every last ounce of energy from me.</p>
<p>But no matter how exhausted I became, how close to my edge I thought I was, when I needed it the most <strong>I found myself able to remain grounded and mindful through this practice</strong>, transforming the challenge with the compassionate presence I found I was never without.</p>
<p>I had been wanting to offer this guided mindfulness meditation for weeks. But it wasn&#8217;t until I recognized just how powerful a practice it had become, that I truly felt ready to share it with you.</p>
<h1 style="text-align: center;">The Organic Sister&#8217;s Guided Mindfulness Meditation</h1>
<p style="text-align: left;"><strong>Mindfulness is remaining present and deeply connected to Who You Are within any moment or situation.</strong></p>
<p style="text-align: left;">It&#8217;s the ability to remain calm and centered around your values and the organic actions that spring from your values.</p>
<p>Life challenges that mindfulness. It offers so many opportunities to lose yourself.</p>
<p>We all know what it&#8217;s like to not feel mindful.</p>
<p><em>When we&#8217;re not mindful, we feel scattered, uneasy, irritable, overwhelmed, unable to see clearly and prone to losing our temper or our stability, to losing ourselves within the drama or commotion or emotion flying around us.</em></p>
<p><strong>Gaining or regaining that mindfulness is crucial to what you&#8217;re ready to experience in your life.</strong><img src="http://theorganicsister.com/wp-content/uploads/GMM1.jpg" alt="" title="GMM1" width="300" height="300" class="alignright size-full wp-image-7532" /></p>
<p>This meditation is for anyone ready to:</p>
<ul>
<li><strong>Move out of the chaos</strong> of your mind&#8217;s chatter</li>
<li>Cut through the layers of complexity <strong>in any moment</strong></li>
<li>Experience the <strong>deep grounding</strong> feeling that mindfulness brings</li>
<li><strong>See clearly</strong> through the eyes of Compassion and Wisdom</li>
<li>Learn to <strong>stop your knee-jerk responses</strong> &#8211; you know, the ones you regret later</li>
<li><strong>Offer support</strong> and steadiness to those in need around you</li>
<li>Bring <strong>calm, clarity, and kindness</strong> into your interactions with others.</li>
</ul>
<p>This Guided Mindfulness Meditation is an organic practice. And as you practice it, both within the meditation and using the practice in your everyday life, you will experience the power that mindfulness holds for you.</p>
<h1>What You Can Expect From This Meditation</h1>
<p>This Guided Mindfulness Meditation is a 45 minute mp3 that is immediately available upon payment via download.</p>
<p>You can upload it on your iPod, your smartphone or save it to your computer.</p>
<p>And slowly, gently, it will guide you through a process of relaxing, grounding and connecting you to your awareness, to your body, to your heart. Then I will guide you to bringing this into any moment with the confidence that you can make this happen, that you can create the results of mindfulness in your life, before leaving you with several extra minutes to finish your meditation practice at your own pace.</p>
<h1>And then The Holiday Thriving Kit was born.</h2>
<p>In that same place of meditation I felt a very clear call and sudden call to create something more.</p>
<p><strong>Something WITH the Guided Mindfulness Meditation&#8230;AND some other practical tools.<br />
</strong></p>
<p>Tools I had recently shared with the Organic Tribe.</p>
<p>Because I know, as we come up on the holidays, mindfulness is a necessary and powerful practice to transform your experiences.</p>
<p>And I know that sometimes you might find you need a little more than mindfulness&#8230;<strong>you might need something to do next</strong>.</p>
<p>For a limited time, <strong>only until Wednesday, December 22&#8230;</strong></p>
<div style="font-weight: normal; color: #000000; background-color: #e9f0f9; border-style: none; font-size: 12px; padding: 10px;">
<p>I&#8217;m offering<strong> The Holiday <del>Survival</del> Thriving Kit</strong>, which includes:</p>
<ul>
<li>The <strong>45 minute Guided Mindfulness Meditation</strong>, described above, to give you a practice that you can use before, after and within your holiday season</li>
</ul>
<p><img src="http://theorganicsister.com/wp-content/uploads/TOS_THTKit081-257x300.png" alt="" title="TOS_THTKit08" width="257" height="300" class="alignright size-medium wp-image-7519" /></p>
<ul>
<li>An 80 minute Organic Tribe audio: <em>Being Organic Around Conventional Wisdom, </em>with four exercises to help you to remain true to your values around the people you love &#8211; the family, friends or even strangers &#8211; who don&#8217;t share those values. This Organic Tribe session is full of the coaching, the Aha moments, the tools you need to not be triggered by the things others say or do (to you, around you or about you), to continue to shine Who You Are, despite any odds.</li>
</ul>
<ul>
<li>And a 90 minute Organic Tribe audio: <em>Stop Surviving the Holidays and Start Thriving (5 Things to Get Instead of Stressed)</em>, with the guidance and practices that you can use starting right now to change your experience of the holidays from overwhelm, discontent or unhappiness to joy, gratitude and Love, and <strong>includes another 20 minute guided meditation</strong> to help you remain connected to yourself, to what it is that feeds you and what it is that guides you toward truly loving and appreciating what is.</li>
</ul>
<p>It&#8217;s all the tools, the coaching and the practices that you can use to truly thrive this holiday season.</p>
</div>
<p><span style="color: #ffffff;">.</span></p>
<h1>What is your sanity worth this year?</h1>
<p><strong>Receiving this amount of coaching and tools personally from me would normally cost several hundred dollars or more in one-on-one coaching. </strong></p>
<p>But for a short time, only until December 22nd, you can receive several hours of tools, coaching, and support <strong>for $74 or choose the meditation alone for $35</strong>.</p>
<p>Most gifts we give ourselves last a few hours, maybe a few weeks or months&#8230;</p>
<p><strong>This gift will last you years.<br />
</strong><br />
And not just over the holidays. These are tools you can apply all year long.</p>
<h1>Give yourself a gift this year.</h1>
<p>Mindfulness. Grounding. Peace. Clarity. </p>
<p>The ability to think straight.</p>
<p>To hear your own Organic Wisdom and trust it.</p>
<p>The experience you and your entire family are needing.</p>
<p><center><a href="https://www.e-junkie.com/ecom/gb.php?c=cart&#038;i=1027466&#038;cl=124452&#038;ejc=2" target="ej_ejc" class="ec_ejc_thkbx" onClick="javascript:return EJEJC_lc(this);"><img class="alignnone size-full wp-image-7459" title="The Holiday Thriving Kit" src="http://theorganicsister.com/wp-content/uploads/bundle1.jpg" alt="The Holiday Thriving Kit" width="250" height="250" /></a> <a class="ec_ejc_thkbx" onclick="javascript:return EJEJC_lc(this);" href="https://www.e-junkie.com/ecom/gb.php?c=cart&amp;i=1027452&amp;cl=124452&amp;ejc=2" target="ej_ejc"><img class="alignnone size-full wp-image-7460" title="Guided Mindfulness Meditation" src="http://theorganicsister.com/wp-content/uploads/meditation1.jpg" alt="Guided Mindfulness Meditation" width="250" height="250" /></a> </center></p>
<p>P.S. Yes! Anyone who purchases either the Guided Mindfulness Meditation or The Holiday Thriving Kit will be invited to join <a href="http://theorganicsisterhood.com" target="_blank">The Organic Sisterhood!</a> You&#8217;ll get that info upon payment.</p>
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		<title>Why I Love Getting Older :: How Aging Became an Honor Instead of a Fear (Video)</title>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 05 Dec 2011 16:48:09 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>TheOrganicSister</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Women, especially older women, always smirk a little when I tell them how much I look forward to aging. I can&#8217;t wait to get my first grey hair (or find them under all these dreads), I love the lines I&#8217;m wearing on my face, and how I see aging as one of the most beautiful [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Women, especially older women, always smirk a little when I tell them how much I look forward to aging.</p>
<p>I can&#8217;t wait to get my first grey hair (or find them under all these dreads), I love the lines I&#8217;m wearing on my face, and how I see aging as one of the most beautiful things in the world.</p>
<p>They assume it hasn&#8217;t &#8220;hit me yet&#8221;.</p>
<p>Oh but it has. The fear of aging hit me a few years ago. Hard.</p>
<p>And that&#8217;s when everything changed.</p>
<p>I explain it, passionately and emotionally I might add, in this video below&#8230;</p>
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		<title>Why Am I Choosing &#8220;Productive&#8221; Over Actually PRODUCING? (How Digging Deep, Deep Breaths and One Simple Question Changes Everything)</title>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 28 Nov 2011 19:10:06 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>TheOrganicSister</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Love notes from Zeb on the window where I work&#8230;totally feed my soul. ♥ I&#8217;ve made some very important changes in my life and work recently, with more on the way. Actually, they don&#8217;t seem all that serious after having made them. But before I made them they were scary and paralyzing and So! Freaking! [...]]]></description>
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<p style="text-align: center;"><em>Love notes from Zeb on the window where I work&#8230;totally feed my soul. ♥<br />
</em></p>
<p>I&#8217;ve made some very important changes in my life and work recently, with more on the way.</p>
<p>Actually, they don&#8217;t seem all that serious after having made them. But before I made them they were scary and paralyzing and So! Freaking! Life-Threatening!</p>
<p>(That would be those funny beliefs of mine talking.)</p>
<p>Yes, I spent some timing <a href="http://theorganicsister.com/digging-deep-a-toolbox-and-workbook-for-personal-growth/" target="_blank">Digging Deep</a> with them (thank you for that, public accountability), peeling back the layers, clearing and healing as I went.</p>
<p>But let me go back a bit&#8230;</p>
<p><strong>You see, it started when I realized that I was actually being ridiculously UNproductive.</strong></p>
<p>I have a very full and beautiful life with a full-time <a href="http://theorganicsister.com/organic-life-coaching/" target="_blank">coaching</a> practice, a <a href="http://sustainablebabysteps.com" target="_blank">green living website</a>, an amazing family that I thoroughly enjoy spending as much time as possible with and a life of travel.</p>
<p>We do a lot, yo!</p>
<p>But when I looked at my days I was seeing that I spent so much time on things that were NOT productive to my two main purposes in life: feeding my soul and helping others.</p>
<p>I would rationalize with myself that checking emails is important. And of course it is!</p>
<p><em>But 9874938562 times a day?</em></p>
<p>I would rationalize that Facebook and Twitter are important to my business. And of course they are!</p>
<p><em>But do I need to spend several hours a day there?</em></p>
<p>I would rationalize that fine-tuning and tweaking a project or blog post until it&#8217;s &#8220;just perfect&#8221; was important.</p>
<p><em>Um, no it isn&#8217;t. <img src='http://theorganicsister.com/wp-includes/images/smilies/icon_smile.gif' alt=':)' class='wp-smiley' /> </em></p>
<p>I would rationalize that if I just got &#8220;these couple things off my to-do list&#8221; then I could focus on my next Big, Beautiful Project.</p>
<p><em><strong>Biggest. Bullshit. Ever.</strong></em></p>
<p>Wakeup call! I <strong>knew</strong> that last one wasn&#8217;t true!</p>
<p>I know that little things will always be there and putting off the big things for some &#8220;ideal&#8221; time or for when things are a little less busy or for when I could just take a couple things off my plate is NEVER going to work!</p>
<p>It&#8217;s just an excuse, a bad reason to allow the symptoms, distraction and lack of clarity, to be &#8220;reasons&#8221;.</p>
<p>So I got to ask myself&#8230;why?</p>
<p>Why do I spend time on the things that are not actually serving anyone? Why am I choosing to do my second-best, instead of throw myself into my personal best? Why am I fretting over the minute details instead of wholeheartedly moving in the direction my heart is pulling me?</p>
<p>Why am I choosing &#8220;productive&#8221; over actually PRODUCING?</p>
<p>How is that even productive?</p>
<h1>And So I Sat</h1>
<p>At this point I was feeling that uncomfortable feeling in my body&#8230;where I start tapping my foot or shivering as my subconscious mind says &#8220;It&#8217;s time to run away from here!&#8221; and my body responds with any erratic movement it&#8217;s got.</p>
<p>This is ALWAYS my sign that I&#8217;m onto something good, something my mind and heart might be afraid to let go.</p>
<p>And fear is always a sign of a lie. (When I&#8217;m in Truth, I have no fear.)</p>
<p><strong>So I sat with it in meditation.</strong></p>
<p>I leaned into it, still focusing on my breath and brought the whole feeling and all the thoughts about it in front of my closed eyes.</p>
<p>And I allowed myself to sink in and hold that space.</p>
<p>And I breathed.</p>
<p>And tried not to run away.</p>
<p>There were parts I resisted, that felt too much to bring my awareness to, so I gave them my love and turned back to my breath, opening myself to hearing my own Organic Wisdom.</p>
<p>Then I heard it, in the form of the question <a href="http://www.goddessguidebook.com/choosing-happiness/" target="_blank">Goddess Leonie</a> had heard right before she cut her long mermaid hair&#8230;</p>
<blockquote><p>What would I do if I felt free?</p></blockquote>
<p>&#8220;<em>Free of what?</em>&#8221; I asked</p>
<p>&#8220;<em>Free of fear, of &#8220;shoulds&#8221; (oh that dirty, dirty word), of the things I assume about what others will think</em>.&#8221;</p>
<p>(Oh you again.)</p>
<p>And then another question&#8230;</p>
<blockquote><p>What would I do if my only priority were feeding my soul and then feeding the souls of others?</p></blockquote>
<p>And I heard my heart whisper very clearly a litany of things she was ready to shift or release or bring into alignment with what actually feeds my soul&#8230;</p>
<p>And almost all of them had to do with the internet. (Go fig.)</p>
<p><em>I would make the choice to check emails only once or twice in a workday.<br />
And not on the weekends.<br />
I would make the choice to close the Facebook and Twitter tabs on my browser.<br />
I would turn off the notifications on my phone and make off-work hours, disruption-free.<br />
I would choose to call a friend for a long chat instead of send an email.<br />
I would close comments on my blog so that I could write with my heart and not with my ear to the response.<br />
I would conduct the <a href="http://theorganicsister.com/organic-tribe/" target="_blank">Organic Tribe</a> in a way that feels so congruent with Who I Am and not what is &#8220;professional&#8221;. (Pffffft.)<br />
I would lean deeper into my own healing gifts and bring those into my coaching sessions with total Trust that my intuition and theirs will always guide us.</em><br />
<em>I would stop putting limitations on what I can do and just move toward what feels right.</em></p>
<p><strong>And most importantly, I would ask myself:</strong></p>
<blockquote><p>Is this:</p>
<ol type="A">
<li>Feeding my soul,</li>
<li>Feeding my greater vision and purpose in this world, or</li>
<li>Feeding the souls of others?</li>
</ol>
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<p><strong>And truly what I found is that when I can answer yes to the first one, I can answer yes to all of them. ♥</strong></p>
<p>It&#8217;s taken some practice.</p>
<p>It&#8217;s triggered some fear (in me and in others).</p>
<p>I still have layers to <a href="http://theorganicsister.com/digging-deep-a-toolbox-and-workbook-for-personal-growth/" target="_blank">DIG IN</a> to and peel away to fully heal why I hold back so often.</p>
<p>But everytime I feel myself allowing distractions to keep me off-task or excuses to keep me from completion or fear keeping me from total passion and love, I&#8217;m guiding myself gently back to my Truth with reminders of that question&#8230;</p>
<blockquote><p>Is this:</p>
<ol type="a">
<li>Feeding my soul,</li>
<li>feeding my greater vision and purpose in this world or</li>
<li>feeding the souls of others?</li>
</ol>
</blockquote>
<p>And then I make the simple choice to move back to what says &#8220;Yes&#8221; to that question.</p>
<p>It&#8217;s as simple (and as challenging) as that.</p>
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<h1>Psst!</h1>
<p>In my move toward producing from my soul and that which feeds my soul, rather than &#8220;being productive&#8221;, I have a very special new product I&#8217;m creating and <del datetime="2011-12-07T14:37:37+00:00">hope to be releasing in about a week.</del></p>
<p>IT&#8217;S HERE!</p>
<p>It&#8217;s a <strong>guided meditation for mindfulness</strong> that I first created for myself when I was struggling to feel grounded through my busiest, most stressful days (&#8217;tis the season!).</p>
<p>Aaaaand, for a short time it will be available with two additional audios just for your holiday survival season. <img src='http://theorganicsister.com/wp-includes/images/smilies/icon_smile.gif' alt=':)' class='wp-smiley' /> </p>
<p><a href="http://theorganicsister.com/guided-mindfulness-meditation/">Click here for details about the Holiday Thriving Kit AND the Guided Mindfulness Meditation!</a></p>
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		<title>The Experience of Gratitude is Not a &#8220;Should&#8221;</title>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 23 Nov 2011 17:00:42 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>TheOrganicSister</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Tomorrow is Thanksgiving and so many of us are turning our hearts toward big, beautiful meals and the idea of gratitude. Gratitude was my main guiding word this year. So naturally I have lots of thoughts during my very favorite holiday. I&#8217;ve never loved Thanksgiving for the gratitude part. I loved it for the simplicity, [...]]]></description>
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<p>Tomorrow is Thanksgiving and so many of us are turning our hearts toward big, beautiful meals and the idea of gratitude.</p>
<p><a href="http://theorganicsister.com/eleven-permissions-for-2011/" target="_blank">Gratitude was my main guiding word this year</a>. So naturally I have lots of thoughts during my very favorite holiday.</p>
<p>I&#8217;ve never loved Thanksgiving for the gratitude part. I loved it for the simplicity, for its ability to not add so many layers of complexity to what I am really wanting to experience: deep connection with those I love, deep enjoyment I find myself most capable of within a slower pace in life, and deep nourishment &#8211; physically and spiritually.</p>
<p><strong>But something about the idea of gratitude tended to rub me the wrong way.</strong></p>
<p>And I didn&#8217;t understand it until this year, as I dove into this word, allowing it to guide me, to show me, to open me to what I longed to understand.</p>
<p>And this is what I understand.</p>
<p>I resisted not the practice of gratitude, but this ever pervasive idea or sense of obligation, guilt and shame I felt around the word.</p>
<blockquote><p><em>&#8220;I should be grateful.&#8221;</em></p>
<p><em>&#8220;You should be grateful.&#8221;</em></p></blockquote>
<p>And my heart would hear those words and want to yell &#8220;No!&#8221;</p>
<p>And now I know why. Why I resisted what seems so true.</p>
<p><strong>Because every time we feel as though we &#8220;should be&#8221; grateful, we negate the pain or hurt or struggle that we are experiencing in that moment, instead of gratitude.</strong></p>
<p>We tell our tears to stop. We tell ourselves to suck it up. That others have it worse. And so who the hell are we to ache, to hurt, to need to cry, or to desire change when we have it so good.</p>
<blockquote><p><em>&#8220;It could be worse, so we should be grateful.&#8221;</em></p></blockquote>
<p>And in thinking that &#8220;it could be worse&#8221;, we ignore what is yearning for attention right now.</p>
<p>Because if someone else has it worse, we don&#8217;t deserve to have it better.</p>
<p>Oh, and there is a time for that!</p>
<p>A time to recognize our blessings, to give thanks.</p>
<p><strong>And there is also a time to acknowledge our own pain, to heal our own wounds, to protect our own hearts and understand that under our ache, our pain, our frustration, our complaints&#8230;under the surface of what we&#8217;re experiencing is something within us that deserves love, that deserves attention, that deserves validation, that deserves to have its deepest needs met.</strong></p>
<p>Not because we&#8217;re more deserving, not because anyone else is less.</p>
<p>But because we all deserve to have our needs met.</p>
<p>All of them.</p>
<p><strong>Because that&#8217;s what that pain, that lack of gratitude is&#8230;it&#8217;s just a sign to meet a deeper, fundamental and universal need.</strong></p>
<h1>If there is one thing I&#8217;ve learned this year, it&#8217;s this:</h1>
<p>I went into this year assuming that I would simply focus on the act of gratitude.</p>
<p>And I did. And it was good.</p>
<p>But it didn&#8217;t last.</p>
<p>Because those aches would resurface and ask with longing for the attention they needed.</p>
<p>And that&#8217;s when I understood that I cannot <strong>make</strong> gratitude.</p>
<p><strong>I cannot make myself grateful.</strong></p>
<p><em>Gratitude is already  - and always &#8211; there.</em></p>
<p>I simply choose to experience it by first addressing all the aches, the longings, the unmet needs, the pain I am holding within my heart <strong>and that is standing between me and the experience of gratitude</strong>.</p>
<p>But when I simply lean into those aches for a moment, giving them the attention they are screaming for, encircling them with compassion, examining what they are and why, and bring Light and Love to them, they ease and vanish.</p>
<p><strong>And as they do I experienced the rush of gratitude. </strong></p>
<p>The gratitude that was always there.</p>
<p>Waiting for its turn.</p>
<p>But patiently, knowing that something else needed to come first.</p>
<p>And then gratitude had its turn.</p>
<p>And it enveloped me.</p>
<p>And I held it.</p>
<p>And it changed my experience of life.</p>
<p>And it only recedes when something bigger needs to be held for a moment.</p>
<p>Gratitude was - and is &#8211; the natural consequence of healing my spirit, of peeling back the layers of my painful beliefs and fears, of coming into awareness of Who I Am, and what I&#8217;m here to do.</p>
<p><strong>Without those fears, there is nothing but gratitude left TO experience.<br />
</strong><br />
And when I experience that gratitude, it gives me the ability to not just &#8220;suck it up&#8221;, to not feel awash in my guilt or shame, but to come alive, to feel vibrant, and THEN and only then do I find myself capable of offering what I am experiencing within me to those who have the same or deeper needs.</p>
<p>There is no &#8220;should&#8221;&#8230;this just simply is.</p>
<p><strong>When I validate and give love to my lack of gratitude, I experience gratitude naturally and then I can actually create the same in the lives of others.</strong></p>
<h1>And that is one equation I am so incredibly grateful for.</h1>
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		<title>Missing The Wild Spaces in This Big City</title>
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		<pubDate>Fri, 28 Oct 2011 19:33:47 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[We&#8217;ve been in Nashville for almost a month now and I&#8217;m missing the quiet places we&#8217;ve been. I need my wild spaces. I need to stick my toes in the dirt and lay in tall grasses and walk beneath trees. To walk somewhere beautiful as I talk to my clients. Without the sound of the [...]]]></description>
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<p>We&#8217;ve been in Nashville for almost a month now and I&#8217;m missing the quiet places we&#8217;ve been.</p>
<p><strong>I need my wild spaces.</strong></p>
<p>I need to stick my toes in the dirt and lay in tall grasses and walk beneath trees.</p>
<p>To walk somewhere beautiful as I talk to my clients.</p>
<p>Without the sound of the freeway on the other side of the wall. <img src='http://theorganicsister.com/wp-includes/images/smilies/icon_wink.gif' alt=';)' class='wp-smiley' /> </p>
<p>Without the non-stop foot traffic of people who look at me weird for lying in the sun, belly to the Earth or face to the sky, or as I talk about Big Things.</p>
<p>Without rocks and concrete under my bare feet.</p>
<p><em>I need wild spaces.</em></p>
<p>And I never really knew it before now. I didn&#8217;t know what I was missing until we slowed down our travels this year and stayed off the beaten path and traveled quieter roads.</p>
<p>I need places like that, where I can slip off to and slip away.</p>
<p>Places to spread my blanket and my arms and my heart.</p>
<p>Places to reroot myself.</p>
<p>I was raised a city girl. And there are parts of being in a city that I love.</p>
<p>Whole Foods. Big festivals. Lots of friends. <strong>Options</strong>.</p>
<p>But I&#8217;m pretty sure I won&#8217;t be happy if we settle back down in a big city again. City-planned greenways and parks&#8230;they just don&#8217;t feel the same as the caves we&#8217;ve been exploring, the trails we&#8217;ve been discovering, the stars we&#8217;ve admired or the quiet I&#8217;ve found I love.</p>
<p>It&#8217;s that quiet that has been helping me find Stillness. The big kind of Stillness. The kind that permeates in a good way.</p>
<p>But we&#8217;re here and we have the choice to make the most of it, to meet our needs wherever we&#8217;re planted.</p>
<p>And a very large (and persistent) part of myself wanted to whine about it. I wanted to pout and insist we pack up and go. Okay, okay I did that. <img src='http://theorganicsister.com/wp-includes/images/smilies/icon_wink.gif' alt=';)' class='wp-smiley' />  And yes it&#8217;s an option, but it didn&#8217;t feel right either.</p>
<p><strong>What I truly want is to just Be Here Now.</strong></p>
<p>To sink into a feeling of beauty and gratitude right where I am.</p>
<p><em>(Oh but that so much easier when I have my wild spaces to help me get reconnected!)</em></p>
<p>I want to balance what IS with what I need it to be.</p>
<p>Because I can&#8217;t fight reality. And I won&#8217;t ignore my deeper needs either. And I certainly don&#8217;t want to lose touch with Who I Am because of what&#8217;s going on around me.</p>
<p>So this is me&#8230;walking carefully over the rocks and spreading my blanket amidst the RVers and plugging in my earphones and <a href="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NTAjLwWNITg&#038;feature=related" target="_blank">listening to music</a> and <strong>rooting myself right where I&#8217;ve been planted</strong>.</p>
<p>But oh man, am I dreaming about the state park we have planned in Florida this winter. <img src='http://theorganicsister.com/wp-includes/images/smilies/icon_smile.gif' alt=':)' class='wp-smiley' /> </p>
<h1 style="text-align: center;">How do you get rooted despite it all?</h1>
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		<title>4 Things Your Fear of Change Really Means</title>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 21 Sep 2011 11:43:09 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>TheOrganicSister</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[We all have what we think are reasons to fear change. It&#8217;s annoying, overwhelming, frustrating, unnecessary, time-consuming, and so on. But I&#8217;m going to challenge you to DIG deeper than the circumstance, deeper than your reactions to the circumstance. I&#8217;m going to challenge you to DIG into the real reasons any of us are afraid [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>We all have what we think are reasons to fear change. It&#8217;s annoying, overwhelming, frustrating, unnecessary, time-consuming, and so on.</p>
<p>But I&#8217;m going to challenge you to <a href="http://theorganicsister.com/digging-deep-a-toolbox-and-workbook-for-personal-growth/" target="_blank">DIG deeper</a> than the circumstance, deeper than your reactions to the circumstance.</p>
<p>I&#8217;m going to challenge you to DIG into the real reasons any of us are afraid of change, whether it&#8217;s frustration over <a href="http://www.ibtimes.com/articles/217741/20110921/facebook-changes-news-feed-update.htm" target="_blank">Facebook changes</a> or overwhelm over a change in career or fear of a change within ourselves or our lives.</p>
<p style="text-align: center;"><a title="Change. by Zoe Pittman, on Flickr" href="http://www.flickr.com/photos/zoerenee/3684999103/"><img src="http://farm4.static.flickr.com/3548/3684999103_784fe4052d.jpg" alt="Change." width="500" height="375" /></a></p>
<h6 style="text-align: center;"><a href="http://www.flickr.com/photos/zoerenee/3684999103/">Change</a> via <a href="http://www.flickr.com/photos/zoerenee/">Zoe Pittman</a></h6>
<p>(Heck, how many of you are afraid right now of changing your perspective on this topic? Maybe you&#8217;re feeling flustered or confused, tight in your stomach or shoulders, aggravated, offended or worried. That&#8217;s all about fear, baby.)</p>
<blockquote><p>All human actions are motivated at their deepest level by two emotions&#8211;fear or love. In truth there are only two emotions&#8211;only two words in the language of the soul&#8230;. Fear wraps our bodies in clothing, love allows us to stand naked. Fear clings to and clutches all that we have, love gives all that we have away. Fear holds close, love holds dear. Fear grasps, love lets go. Fear rankles, love soothes. Fear attacks, love amends.<br />
- Neale Donald Walsch</p></blockquote>
<p>Change is the only constant in life right? So anytime we&#8217;re fighting with reality we get to ask ourselves some deeper questions. Like what am I really afraid of here?</p>
<h1>What Your Fear of Change Really Means</h1>
<p>Beneath the situation, the things you can see or describe, beneath your reactions&#8230;.are the fears that are being triggered. Remember, no &#8220;thing&#8221; in life can rub a sore spot that doesn&#8217;t already exist inside us.</p>
<p><strong>Which one of these is you?</strong></p>
<ol>
<li><strong>&#8220;Change makes me anxious.&#8221;</strong>
<p>A big, BIG reason we fear change is because we feel more comfortable where we are, rather than moving forward. But all of life moves forward and changes.And so if we&#8217;re afraid of doing what comes naturally and organic to our nature, it&#8217;s often because of fear that change is not safe. We know what things are now. We don&#8217;t know what lies ahead.</p>
<p>And so it doesn&#8217;t matter if it&#8217;s a little change, like your favorite restaurant closing or a big change, like marriage, walking into the unknown rubs against a fear that we are inherently not safe.</p>
<p>Ask yourself: Why do I feel unsafe?</li>
<li><strong>&#8220;Change frustrates or overwhelms me.&#8221;</strong>
<p>We&#8217;re human. We make mistakes. And we have weaknesses. But we&#8217;ve been taught from a very young age that this is a bad thing. So we begin to learn that we are not &#8220;good enough&#8221;&#8230;or some variation, such as smart enough, capable enough, strong enough.</p>
<p>When changes rubs against this idea we&#8217;ve learned we say things like &#8220;I can&#8217;t possibly figure out all these new changes!&#8221; or &#8220;I can&#8217;t handle this in my life.&#8221; Change freaks us out because it threatens to expose our weaknesses and our vulnerabilities.</p>
<p>Ask yourself: What makes me think I&#8217;m not enough?</li>
<li><strong>&#8220;It&#8217;s just too much.&#8221;</strong>
<p>Too much of one thing really means not enough of another. This other &#8220;not enough&#8221; is all about scarcity on a deep core level. </p>
<p>I usually hear it in regards to time: &#8220;I don&#8217;t have time to manage all this.&#8221; Sometimes it&#8217;s about money: &#8220;I can&#8217;t afford to redo everything!&#8221; Maybe even: &#8220;I don&#8217;t have the energy for this.&#8221;</p>
<p>The thing about scarcity is it&#8217;s really about us and our (in)ability to create more, which goes back to that &#8220;good enough&#8221; thing I mentioned up there. It&#8217;s also about the feeling that you&#8217;re needs won&#8217;t be met, that if someone else gets something there won&#8217;t be anything left for you, that you&#8217;ll be left hurting or alone. (And that takes us to #4.)</p>
<p>Ask yourself: Why do I think I can&#8217;t have or create more?</li>
<li><strong>&#8220;What about me and what I want?&#8221;</strong>
<p>This one is sneaky and sometimes hard to see. Maybe it surfaces as the &#8220;Why me? Everyone is out to get me!&#8221; reaction we have when things change without our approval.But it&#8217;s also that anxiety we feel as we try to figure something out and feel like we&#8217;ll be the last one to get it (or that we&#8217;ll never get it). Or the panic we feel if life or love gets tough, because we&#8217;re afraid it won&#8217;t work out.</p>
<p>You see, under this idea that people are intentionally hurting you or will hurt you is really the idea that you are or will be alone, unloved, unseen, unheard, not cared for or taken seriously, ignored, unimportant or unappreciated.</p>
<p>Ask yourself: How long have I felt alone?</li>
<li><strong>Or maybe it&#8217;s something else entirely&#8230;</strong><br />
Have you caught yourself wrapped up in reacting badly about something, complaining about change that you know really doesn&#8217;t matter?</p>
<p>Well, then it&#8217;s likely it&#8217;s not about what&#8217;s changing at all. It&#8217;s likely the change you&#8217;re resisting is really just a scapegoat for something else.</p>
<p>Ask yourself: What am I really avoiding or distracting myself from by spending my energy fighting with this?</p>
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<p>How do I know this? Oh, only because I&#8217;ve experienced each one of these at some time in my life. And I&#8217;ve talked to or coached countless others who have <a href="http://theorganicsister.com/digging-deep-a-toolbox-and-workbook-for-personal-growth/">discovered the same about their own fear of change</a>.</p>
<p>It&#8217;s just Truth that underneath our own negative reactions are our own negative beliefs or fears. It&#8217;s fact that things cannot cause our reactions, only offer us opportunities to react. How we react, however, is totally up to us.</p>
<h1 style="text-align: center;">What Have You Found Beneath<br />
Your Own Fear of Change?</h1>
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		<title>Organic Wisdom: When The Soul Lies Down</title>
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		<pubDate>Fri, 19 Aug 2011 12:07:29 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>TheOrganicSister</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[&#8220;Out beyond ideas of wrongdoing and rightdoing there is a field. I&#8217;ll meet you there. When the soul lies down in that grass the world is too full to talk about.&#8221; — Rumi Oh Rumi, how I love you. Our life is full&#8230;full of motion and creativity and energy. It&#8217;s vibrant and joyful and exciting [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><a href="http://www.flickr.com/photos/26696967@N03/6047277448/" title="The Field by TheOrganicSister, on Flickr"><img src="http://farm7.static.flickr.com/6063/6047277448_e5a6c2c6c6.jpg" width="500" height="500" alt="The Field"></a></p>
<blockquote><p>&#8220;<em>Out beyond ideas of wrongdoing<br />
and rightdoing there is a field.<br />
I&#8217;ll meet you there. </em></p>
<p>When the soul lies down in that grass<br />
the world is too full to talk about.&#8221;<br />
— Rumi</p></blockquote>
<p>Oh Rumi, how I love you.</p>
<p>Our life is full&#8230;full of motion and creativity and energy. It&#8217;s vibrant and joyful and exciting and fun.</p>
<p>And then sometimes it&#8217;s exhausting. And between the movement and the energy and the excitement I sometimes (and sometimes often) struggle to feel grounded.</p>
<p>Duh, right? We travel full-time; it seems obvious that &#8220;not feeling grounded&#8221; would be expected. But although I knew the challenges (it&#8217;s been 1 and a half years now!) I didn&#8217;t quite put it in those terms&#8230;I need a sense of grounding.</p>
<p><strong>My soul needed a lie-down. </strong></p>
<p>Aah, yes&#8230;just the quiet space in which to lie, to dream, to rest, to be.</p>
<p>We&#8217;re in Northern MI now and will be for several more weeks. As we <a href="http://justin-wagner.com/a-video-update-from-michigan/" target="_blank">explained here</a>, we&#8217;re just ready to settle in, zone out, relax, catch up, lie down.</p>
<p>And it&#8217;s been perfect.</p>
<p>Walking barefoot through the sandy trails, picking wild blackberries in the woods, and laying my soul down in wide open fields on old tattered blankets under a warm sun and a cool breeze. </p>
<p><a href="http://www.flickr.com/photos/26696967@N03/6054397914/" title="feeling grounded by TheOrganicSister, on Flickr"><img src="http://farm7.static.flickr.com/6078/6054397914_2d275ee447.jpg" width="500" height="500" alt="feeling grounded"></a></p>
<p>Yes, this is me, so grounded I felt attached to the soil beneath me and the sky above me.</p>
<p>Just me, my breath and my Source of healing and inspiration and guidance. </p>
<p>It&#8217;s in those quite, grounded spaces when the world is too full to talk about, that I know Life is good.</p>
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		<title>What Would You Do with Nothing Holding You Back?</title>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 25 Jul 2011 18:04:27 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>TheOrganicSister</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[When I read her words I was in tears and goosebumps. THIS! This is what life can look like without the junk that gets in the way. When we clear the path we can suddenly do and create the most amazing things! The only thing that holds us back is what we hold inside. I [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>When I read her words I was in tears and goosebumps.</p>
<p>THIS! This is what life can look like without the junk that gets in the way. When we clear the path we can suddenly do and create the most amazing things!</p>
<h2 style="text-align: center;">The only thing that holds us back is what we hold inside.</h2>
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<div style="font-weight: normal; color: #000000; background-color: #e9f0f9; border: 1px; font-size: 11px; padding: 10px; width: 450px;">I read Tara&#8217;s manifesto last week and was so moved by it, I decided to order <a href="http://theorganicsister.com/digging-deep-a-toolbox-and-workbook-for-personal-growth/">Digging Deep</a>as well.Holy.cow.is.all.I.can.say. I took my time going through it at a pace that seemed right for me. I have to tell you that when I uncovered my first block, I suddenly just had to stop when I was about halfway through the worksheets. My eyes were watering but I wasn’t aware of that at first and I was so tired I literally fell asleep where I was lying. I didn’t sleep much that night though as I thought about what I was uncovering and discovering about beliefs and how it has shaped probably every single encounter I have had in my entire life.</p>
<p>Long story short, an incident that had happened when I was young had made me feel on my core level that I am not to be trusted in this dangerous world.</p>
<p>I can’t even tell you what it is like as I start to free myself from this belief. The biggest issue I was having (and it was really affecting me and my kids I am sure) is that I was resisting playing with my kids and was afraid to take them anywhere (as I can’t be trusted in this dangerous world!).</p>
<p>Wow! Not only has Digging Deep started changing my life but my kids as well. Since completing the workbook, I have signed up for a 5k Warrior Dash (I am not a runner anymore but miss it!) and once a month horse leasing (I don’t know why but I really feel called to be horseback riding!) and I have been taking my kids to the park every night after work and they have been having a blast.<br />
<img class="alignright size-full wp-image-6592" title="SueC" src="http://theorganicsister.com/wp-content/uploads/SueC.jpg" alt="" width="100" height="100" /></p>
<p>I do not know if I will ever be able to thank you enough, Tara. You truly are an angel.</p>
<p>Sue C.</p>
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<p>Sue, you are one incredible, amazing woman and you deserve all the credit for the beauty you&#8217;re creating in your life. (((hugs)))</p>
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