Category Archive for "Organic Parenting"

A Love Letter to Mindful Parents of Little Ones

I remember when we first starting parenting from a place of gentleness. A place that taught us how to not use our hands to get our point across. A place that teaches us to breathe and listen and connect first. A place that models patience and kindness so he’ll know how to use it too. A place that showed us how to trust. It was hard. Just as hard as I know it now is for you. On one side we had the voices in our own head screaming, yelling out years of conditioning, of fears, that love is not enough, that kids need discipline, they need someone to control them, they sure as hell don’t need a friend. The voice within that was afraid. Afraid of screwing this up. Of “creating a monster”. We had our triggers and our angry to peel back and heal. And lord knows, we…

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Practicing the Empty Nest (or Our Month of Dates)

Zeb’s been out of town for two weeks now (which should show you about how behind in blogging I am). He comes home next week, just one day shy of his 14th birthday. These trips of his are almost old hat for us now, except this time he not only flew alone but also navigated his first layover/plane change. It came about after a lot of discussion and even some practice runs following our convoluted and time-sensitive directions through a busy mall. The first thing people ask us when he leaves town is, “Do you miss him?” The first two weeks my answer was, “No”, which I’m pretty sure puts me in last place for Mom of the Year. But the thing is missing him would be like saying we wish he were here. And if he is having a blast, exploring and being with family and friends, why would…

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Capturing (and thus Losing) the Moment

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There is No Such Thing as Square One

I connected with a sweet, beautiful, wonderful client recently who was feeling overwhelmed and set back by life. It’s a frustrating feeling, to set your heart and soul on a goal, or even just a new perspective…to feel the shifts happening in your life, the forward movement finally taking place. And then to experience an upheaval, a new challenge, a serious trigger, the whole of your world throwing up in your face. Then to feel yourself losing all that ground. (If you’re going to fall, fall with pizzazz!) Three steps forward, two back again…or four back it can seem. We experience that backward slide in our own inner work and then we couple it with stories about What That Means. And the stories we tell ourselves about it SEEM true. Our big, desperate, self-deprecating emotions like to tell us it’s real, we’ve just lost out again, Life is against us,…

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Who or what are you “trying to love”?

But, of course, what is not said in this quote is how to bring into your heart this extraordinary thing called love. How do we love the guy that flipped us off with our kid in the car? How do we love the dog shit we found in our shoe this morning? How do we love the cockroach that just crawled across our glass? We don’t. Notice Krishnamurti isn’t saying you need to do anything, such as “loving” someone or something. He’s saying you need to allow love in and then your experience of the world – including the other driver, the dog shit, the roach even (or so I’m told – yet to get there myself on that one) – will do the changing right before your eyes. Who or what are you trying to love? Why are you working from the outside in?

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you’re gonna miss this

You’re gonna miss this And I know how trite that sounds When its not my kid kicking and screaming on the floor But please Please listen to me Cuz you’re gonna miss this You’re gonna miss when the worst case scenarios mean picking them up and carrying them out Because you won’t be able to do that soon And you’ll have to help them find ways to pick themselves up before long And you’re gonna miss when you had the power to hold them and brush your hand over the head and sweep away their fears Because it won’t be long until they are confronting those things alone, on their own, because they know they need to You’re gonna miss coming home to their projects across the dining room table and sprawled over the floor and outlined in crayon on the wall Because there will be a day when the…

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How can Life possibly be against you?

Have you ever had one of those days where it literally seemed like Life was out to get you – and only you – melodrama and all? {Don’t front. I know you have. } I had one yesterday. It was a travel day and I’ve learned that travel days are a huge instigator to anything I need to DIG IN to. I’ve gotten proactive, planning meals ahead, taking time to ground myself, bring along my essential oils to keep centered. It worked on the first travel day. But two travel days in a row I was ill-equipped for. So my son woke up cranky…I’ve got this. I get it. I’m not a morning person either. Breathe. Surrender. Keep flowing. Then the fan belt began to shred. Actually felt good through this. My husband is a rockstar, noticed it, changed it, back on the road in no time. Aaah. Feeling good….

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5 Cool New Places You Can Find Me {Like Problogger!}

I’ve been getting around a little lately, collaborating with some new peeps and having some fun with it. I felt like I was so swamped with the OP e-course I just didn’t have a chance to network and collaborate with anyone for a good chunk of the year. Or I haven’t had a chance to share them. Boo. This afternoon the rad Christie Inge joined us on the Organic Tribe tele-circle to talk about what she does best: intuitive eating, honoring your body, and making peace with food {she was even rad enough to send some extra goodies too}, and reminding me again how much I love her, her work, her voice. If you haven’t checked her out, please do. I think you’ll love her. {If you’re part of the Tribe/Sisterhood, grab the recording from your downloads!} Here’s where I’ve been myself lately: Problogger: 6 Practices to Overcome Your Fears…

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Is “filling our cups” conditional happiness for mamas?

I love all you women on the Tribe/Sisterhood forums. If you’re not on there, or not over there often, they’re all so beautifully deep and reflective and honest. The conversations that stem from those qualities are cup-filling for me, big time. One such conversation was on that exact topic, “Filling Our Cups”, also the first module of the Organic Parenting e-course. This part of the course focuses on a part of the Digging Deep process that is based off of Nonviolent Communication. A really important and soul-stretching discussion was opened up on whether our attempts to meet our needs and create the elements that “fill our cups” can lock us into a form of conditional happiness…as in “I can only be happy when I get what I want”. This was particularly thought-provoking for me: I worry that I will become *dependent* on “getting my me-time” or whatever it is, for…

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There and Back Again {A Tale of Thanksgiving and Spiritual Failure}

We just arrived home from a 9 day trip back to Las Vegas. Let me warn you now, this post may be long, meandering, and senseless to anyone but me while I try to make sense of the many things going on in my head and my heart. {I’m also going to talk somewhat candidly here and do so mindfully and in my never-freaking-ending practice to keep my focus on my own heart, without projecting or losing sight of my own accountability. None of this is “about” anyone, hold my experience with Life and how the hell we make sense of the seemingly senseless hurt it can deliver.} Ascending on my hometown Feeling more like a visitor this time {than the escapee of before} I haven’t missed this place Haven’t missed “home” Although I know that’s not the story for all Those were the words I quickly penned as our…

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