Category Archive for "Organic Tribes"

Living in a Bubble {And Making it Bigger}

We left what felt like a bubble in Ithaca. Said goodbye to our friends in the caravan first, then goodbye to our friends in Ithaca. We’re traveling south for the winter, like the snowbirds we are. It’s quiet now on the road. We’ve been surrounded by friends, family and friends who have become like family for almost a year. Now it’s suddenly just us again, the slow pace together needed but strange. It hit me the other day that this is likely our last year on the road, and I realized how many opportunities I’ve missed. I know that’s natural. There is SO MUCH to see and do, and you can only do so much of it. The fact being that this isn’t exactly vacation for us makes that even more true. We have businesses to run and a desire for downtime (being homebodies and all). There are plenty of…

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Going Our Own Way {Saying Goodbye to the Conscious Caravan, and Maybe Even Life on the Road}

We said our last “See you later’s” to the Conscious Caravan on Monday. After traveling together for the better part of this year, it’s time for us to go our own way. Let me back up. If you remember we started traveling with this band of wild nomads back in March after first connecting in January. It was a serendipitous connection of many dots that brought us together and met the needs of our family in such deep and meaningful ways. Mostly, it was a traveling village…actually dubbed “The Village” between us. It was friends, a network of support and a lot of love. Some split off in the spring to head up further north for the summer, but even then they were in our hearts. The rest of us traveled up the coast and into Maine together. I’m trying to find words that describe the experience – the love,…

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The Power and Reverence of Holding Space for Women

Filling Your Cup Mama’s Night In at Wide Sky Days Remember the Wide Sky Days conference I mentioned last week? One thing I didn’t elaborate on was that the conference – although deeply needed for personal reasons wasn’t even on our radar to attend until Flo, the event organizer, invited me to hold a circle, a Mama’s Night In. We actually connected back in January over the phone to talk about what she really wanted to offer the mama’s at the conference. By the end of the 45 minutes conversation we had shared laughs and goosebumps and excitement over what was developing. I’ve come to find over the past year how much these circles mean to me. Online circles like the forum and the circles we hold over the phone within the Organic Tribe, and – more and more – these in-person, intimate circles between women. A women’s empowerment circle last…

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Six (Wide Sky) Days Together

In case you didn’t see from my Instagram stream, we spent 6 entire days at the Wide Sky Days conference in San Diego. (WSD is an unschooling conference: a long weekend to gather with other “crazy unschoolers” and play, laugh, connect, ask, answer, realign, inspire, support, and laugh with one another.) What you probably noticed from said Instagram stream is an almost total lack of photos including children. Zeb spent most of his time in the game room and prefers not to have his picture taken much anyway, but I did manage to nab one photo of him: We got to see him find his own comfort level with meeting new people and balance it with plenty of quiet time to himself. (Yes, he’s still in his Caveman phase, and it’s so wonderful to be around other teens and adults who have “been there, done that” and meet him where…

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4 Reasons Why Our Choices Bother Others (And 2 Things We Can Do About It)

When I say “our” choices, I mean each one of us living unconventional lives. It’s pretty much inevitable that we’ll run into conflict, criticism, hurt feelings…maybe even downright attempts to control your choices. It’s hard. Hard to handle and hard to understand sometimes, especially when it’s obvious that we are happy, and thriving (or at least finally getting there). And it’s even harder when it comes from people we love and desire support from. 4 Reasons Why Our Choices Bother Others Someone asked me the rhetorical question we all ask at some point: “Why do they care so much or get so upset by my doing what I love??” And since I like to answer rhetorical questions, I thought I would. 1. They’re interpreting your choices as judgment. Maybe we’re actually being judgmental and they’re sensing it, or maybe we’re talking so passionately (and frequently) about the things we love…

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Listen to me and Tatiana on MamaPhilosopher.com

One of my gorgeous clients, Tatiana Abatemarco, is just starting up her blog, Mama Philosopher. Tatiana is a professor, and philosopher who is bringing her deep examination and mindful values into the home and family arena. Because I’ve had the honor of working with Tatiana for so long, I can personally vouch for this woman’s heart, soul, and mindfulness. I can’t wait to see all she’s creating. She holds space for some of the best conversations, asks the hard questions, and isn’t afraid to question the mainstream in order to find the path that resonates principle-based living on a broad, and a personal scale. She’s beginning a series called Mama Philosopher’s and I had the honor of joining her for her first audio interview. Click here to download and LISTEN to our conversation on unconventional values and making global meaning in our lives and homes. Only 4 More Days! Friday…

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Grounding with Pixie Campbell

I had the honor of connecting over the phone with Pixie Campbell* as she drove her way into the mountains for a week-long retreat. I had no idea what we would settle on, but I knew I simply must invite her to join the Tribe circle this month and she happily said yes. Within just a few minutes the theme was clear: Grounding Ourselves: Settling Our Minds and Centering Our Hearts And I’ll admit, it’s for purely selfish reasons. As we travel I struggle to remain grounded. To create space to root myself back in after a 4 hour drive and new surroundings. And I’m left feeling the disconnection: Scattered in my thoughts Waking up confused, not knowing where I am Stressed and pulled in too many directions Cranky, or overwhelmed Full of doubt Or the biggie: Vertigo All of those things slip away the more I ground myself. I’m…

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Good Job! (And other things you shouldn’t say or do)

“Good Job and Other Things” is the name of Jennifer Lehr’s blog. Actually the full title is “Good Job!” and Other Things You Shouldn’t Say or Do (unless you want to ruin your child’s life). Which makes me laugh. It’s also the title of July’s Tribe call with Jennifer joining us to chat it up. Yes, I run with mamas who don’t “good job” their kids. Yes, it seems innocuous. Yes, I do feel it’s an important phrase to be mindful of. Yes, it still slips out of my mouth. Old habits, after all. My personal feelings on it: There are so many mindless phrases we utter in the name of parenting tradition. And although the intention seems benign, it’s really completely unintentional altogether. “Good job” is what I say when I’m not really engaged. When I love my child, and I’m pleased, but I’m also busy or not really interested…

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4 Unconventional Things to Say to Escape A Conventional Conversation

Photo Source Have you ever been stuck in a conversation that makes you want to scratch your eyeballs out? I’d wager the more conscious and unconventional you live, the more injury your poor eyes endure. You probably don’t want to lie or feel inauthentic. And you don’t want to cause a scene or be rude or hurtful (that’s not very authentic either). But you don’t want to be there either. Why is it that we think being authentic is going to cause so much pain or rejection? I started to learn this awhile back when I had a conversation with a women who was radically authentic and invited me to be the same. It was so freaking liberating! There was nothing offensive about it, because I could tell it was coming from a good heart. And I had so much more trust for her because I knew it was all…

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12 Reasons Every Woman Needs a Tribe

I get asked all the time how it is we created such an unconventional life, and how it is we overcome the odds to make it happen. And my answer is always the same: I made the choice to make two things a priority first: space and time in my life to DIG IN and grow as a person, and tribes of support to encourage me, unstick me when I got stuck, love me when I couldn’t love myself, remind me of the important things when I forgot, inspire the snot out of me with the possibilities they were creating in their life, and call me on my shit (even when I didn’t really want them to). Tiffani Bearup and Me I spent most of my life feeling fiercely independent and for much of the time lacking the depth of friendships I needed. There were best friends I’ve had, and…

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