A surefire way to recognize your own self-doubt, ego or fear of being wrong?
Insisting you’re right.
The sky doesn’t insist it’s blue. It just continues to shine what it is.
Coaching women out of "survival mode" to recreate their lives and families
I'm Tara Wagner, life coach and creator of the Digging Deep process, where I coach women out of survival mode to recreate their lives and families.
I offer women the coaching, tools and tribes to eliminate overwhelm, heal self-doubt and fear, connect to their families in healthier ways and co-create a lifestyle that allows everyone to organically THRIVE.
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So unexpected, so simple, so true! Keep shining beautiful!
Just found a quote to go with this post:
“The more you know the less you need to say.” – Jim Rohn
I remember my god mom telling me as I left for college and then again as I started my career, “The smartest person in the room is also the one who listens.” I can’t tell you how often those words have helped me along over the years.
It’s a hard one to overcome, too, the need to talk instead of listen.
I did finally feel ‘adult’ when I could listen to another person talk about something I felt strongly about (in the other direction) and I could just nod and listen. I did that today when an in-law went on about hippie stereotypes….AHHH!!!
So perfect for today. My five-year-old gets my goat. She’s me…when I was a teen! But it’s because her passionate personality brings out all those things you mentioned. When she gets upset, she doesn’t stop yelling at me, and the things she says are shocking to me, especially for her age. When she feels she is wronged, she becomes outraged, extremely passionate, and unstoppable. There is absolutely no reasoning with her because she won’t listen for two seconds, and anything I say just reinforces how horrible I am to her at that moment. In those moments, my anger (aka insecurity and fear) rises, and instead of responding in a way that might be helpful for her (I’m not even sure I know what that is), I respond in a way that just keeps her going. I want to provide a space for her to feel and be who she is (she is very much like me in her extremes of feeling, such as when we’re having bad moments, in that moment we literally feel like the world is falling apart, and there is nothing good in it), but I also want to draw boundaries and teach her that words are hurtful. I know at least part of the answer is being secure within myself so that I can provide her with a safe haven to feel, but I’m not sure I know how to get there. ~erika