On Trusting Our Kids (and Their Candy)
This is the candy Zeb got from two trunk-or-treat events and one night of trick-or-treating.
Or I should say it’s all the candy he has left.
From Friday through Tuesday he probably ate another grocery bag full. Because of all the sugar in his system he ate little else during that time.
Was I worried? No.
Okay, for a minute there on Tuesday I began to wonder. And we certainly had a discussion or two and offered him plenty of other foods.
But mostly I just waited.
Was it hard? Yes. Even though I trust Zeb to find his own limits and listen to his own body, that little Bad Parent voice tends to chirp up and ask “What will other people think?” I’m pretty proud of how well I told that voice to shut it’s trap.
Because no matter what common parental rules dictate, I know a happy, healthy child will not choose candy forever.
I know my child rarely chooses to eat that much candy. I know all humans will experiment with their own limits. And I know Zeb needed to experiment with his own.
And sure enough Tuesday evening he put his pillowcase of candy away and hasn’t touched it since.
He has instead requested and had all the food his body thrives on:
- nearly a gallon of grass-fed raw milk
- tomatoes with sea salt
- lots of water
- green smoothies
- grass-fed beef
- (Oh, he also bought himself a hot dog at the park, but said it didn’t really hit the spot.)
Halloween is fun. Candy is fun. Sugar is fun.
And our kids should have fun.
They should also be allowed to decide and learn for themselves their own limits. And we should be okay with those choices, even when they don’t match our own choices.
Our kids don’t have to have our own value system or beliefs. It doesn’t always need to make sense to us. We don’t even need to be comfortable with all their choices.
We just need to trust that they will do what makes sense to them.
Because they always will.