Posts Tagged "accountability"

When Your Good Life Makes Others Feel Guilty

I’ve been seeing a lot of those posts on Facebook, where a person apologizes for loving their life too loudly, and reassures everyone that it’s not actually perfect. They explain that they tend to focus on the good for their own benefit, but then they might rattle off all the things that suck to assure others that they are not trying to make anyone feel guilty. I’m torn on this. I understand the intention. I know none of us wants to portray something that isn’t realistic. And I know we want to be mindful of how our actions affect another human being. But is bringing our mindfulness practice, our personal growth, our spiritual awareness, or joy, or our embodiment of love down a level really helping anyone (ourselves included)? You all know I share the depths of my soul, my emotional tornados, and my process through it all quite freely….

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Is “filling our cups” conditional happiness for mamas?

I love all you women on the Tribe/Sisterhood forums. If you’re not on there, or not over there often, they’re all so beautifully deep and reflective and honest. The conversations that stem from those qualities are cup-filling for me, big time. One such conversation was on that exact topic, “Filling Our Cups”, also the first module of the Organic Parenting e-course. This part of the course focuses on a part of the Digging Deep process that is based off of Nonviolent Communication. A really important and soul-stretching discussion was opened up on whether our attempts to meet our needs and create the elements that “fill our cups” can lock us into a form of conditional happiness…as in “I can only be happy when I get what I want”. This was particularly thought-provoking for me: I worry that I will become *dependent* on “getting my me-time” or whatever it is, for…

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There and Back Again {A Tale of Thanksgiving and Spiritual Failure}

We just arrived home from a 9 day trip back to Las Vegas. Let me warn you now, this post may be long, meandering, and senseless to anyone but me while I try to make sense of the many things going on in my head and my heart. {I’m also going to talk somewhat candidly here and do so mindfully and in my never-freaking-ending practice to keep my focus on my own heart, without projecting or losing sight of my own accountability. None of this is “about” anyone, hold my experience with Life and how the hell we make sense of the seemingly senseless hurt it can deliver.} Ascending on my hometown Feeling more like a visitor this time {than the escapee of before} I haven’t missed this place Haven’t missed “home” Although I know that’s not the story for all Those were the words I quickly penned as our…

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There Are No Such Things As Business Emergencies

Taking it easy with an outdoor office Hi Tara, I have a question for you: I’ve been in business for myself for a couple years now, selling art and recently making some digital products, and I have a really hard time with it. I didn’t anticipate all the little emergencies that keep coming up. They take away from my family and my personal life, which I don’t like, but they also have to be dealt with…Any advice on how I can handle these things without compromising my priorities all the time? – Organic Tribe sister Deep breath, sista…take this in, with all the love it’s coming to you with. There are no such things as “business emergencies” that should ever take away from your family. Only our beliefs tell us to jump every time Life hiccups. You’re an artist, not a heart surgeon. Your business is not life or death….

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Organic Wisdom :: How do others love and honor you?

Every Friday or so I intend to share some of the quotes I post on Twitter and Facebook, with some of my expanded thoughts and feelings on it here. “Organic Wisdom” is what I have found speaking to me in those quiet moments, that guides me and echoes Truth in my life. Please feel free to download, or share this image in any way you’d like. Oh man, this was a difficult one for me to embrace. But the words kept coming back to me, looking me square in the face and gently nudging me to take accountability for the relationships I helped to create. “Others will love and honor you how you love and honor yourself.” It was asking me for the raw truth, to look at how I’ve shown others my own value…not in my demands or retorts or reactions, but in my deeper responses. This was my…

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Organic Wisdom :: Your Happiness Is Your Job

Every Friday I intend to share some of the quotes I post on Twitter and Facebook, with some of my expanded thoughts and feelings on it here. “Organic Wisdom” is what I have found speaking to me in those quiet moments, that guides me and that echoes Truth in my life. Please feel free to download, or share this image in any way you’d like. How many times have you said, “You’re making mommy sad.” Or maybe “He made me so angry.” Yeah, I’ve done it too. And guess what? It’s an excuse. It’s not my child’s job to make me happy. It’s his job to explore life, learn and grow, make mistakes and make messes. Not carry the burden of what others will think or feel about Who He Is. And my anger? Comes from me, baby. No one else can “make” me angry. They can only offer me…

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