Posts Tagged "authenticity"

When Your Good Life Makes Others Feel Guilty

I’ve been seeing a lot of those posts on Facebook, where a person apologizes for loving their life too loudly, and reassures everyone that it’s not actually perfect. They explain that they tend to focus on the good for their own benefit, but then they might rattle off all the things that suck to assure others that they are not trying to make anyone feel guilty. I’m torn on this. I understand the intention. I know none of us wants to portray something that isn’t realistic. And I know we want to be mindful of how our actions affect another human being. But is bringing our mindfulness practice, our personal growth, our spiritual awareness, or joy, or our embodiment of love down a level really helping anyone (ourselves included)? You all know I share the depths of my soul, my emotional tornados, and my process through it all quite freely….

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My Retreat Turned Into Retreating

I’ve got my feet up, my heart out, my head on. I’m not sure if I’m ready or just resolute, but I’m on my way. Confronting my resistance with 7 days of all day, every day meditation. It might blow my mind to bits. But that might be a good thing. That was the photo and those were the words rattling around within me Friday. Right before I turned my phone off, handed it to my hubby, and arrived at the ashram. I’m not sure how to describe the week that followed. People like to ask if I “had a good time”, but “good” is not exactly the word that fits. It wasn’t bad. But it wasn’t exactly good either. Useful. That was the adjective I settled on. It was a useful week. Enlightening. Challenging. Helpful in many ways. Heart-wrenching in others. I knew I’d be confronting my resistance to…

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My Wisdom, My Bullshit (and showing up for the right one)

I leave in just a couple hours, and I haven’t packed or even done laundry. I’ve been rushing through all the things I need to do before I leave because once I’m gone I’m actually going to be 100% gone. Off the grid. Seven days. Nothing but meditation. No email. No Facebook or Instagram. No internet whatsoever. I’m not even going to bring my phone. [Insert wide-eyed look of fear here.] Unless there is a bonafide emergency – something that (heaven forbid) involves a hospital or a mortuary – I will have zero contact with anyone but my own Self and the few others who will be on this little “retreat” with me. (That alone is a big deal. I can’t remember ever being out of contact with Justin or Zeb for more than 24 hours.) It’s not really a retreat, in the way we’ve come to see retreats. It’s…

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On Showing Up and Rocking It (The Ricki Lake Recap)

It’s Saturday, two days after the show, and I’m still not totally with it. I’ve slept umteen hours and am still finding my footing, but I wanted to get this whole experience down before I forget it. To answer the most frequently asked question first: The airdate is April 17th on Fox, and you can signup here or here to get a reminder or watch the video we capture of it. The overarching vibe of the entire experience: amazeballs. I realized long before the show that this wasn’t about being on TV, or connecting with the beautiful Ricki (whose work I admire anyway). This was about me. It was about making a declaration to myself of self-approval and nonjudgment. About surrendering my desire to control and perfect, and instead forgiving myself my perceived shortcomings and “not enough-ness” by allowing myself to just own Who I Am. It felt like years…

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My Aversion to My Child’s Passion Does Not Make Me a Bad Mom

The current Organic Parenting e-course group is underway; most of them on Module 5, this one is dedicated to playful parenting. The irony in this is that while over 100 women are listening to me talk about how to bring more playfulness and joy into their home, I’m coming to peace with the way in which I’m just not playful. Case in point: I’m coming to peace with not playing video games with Zeb. Justin plays with him, and I’ve spent the last 5 years trying to play. And I’m not doing that anymore. I’m not pushing myself to play video games, not guilting myself for not playing them, not apologizing for not playing them, I’m not even Digging Deep with what I was calling my resistance. I don’t need to. This is one of those times when the barrier I had was less about what I couldn’t get myself…

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The New Professionalism: Unapologetically Imperfect

Today is my day to breathe. Take space. Drop my shoulders. The Organic Parenting e-course is complete, sent out, and officially off my To Do list. It was such a huge project, with so many components and dozens of contributors, making it my biggest project to date. Over a year in the making. The last three months of which were flipping crazy. I’ll admit. I have a bit of a perfectionist streak. Especially when it comes to the work I love to do, sharing my heart and soul. And the parenting topic is such a big, tender one that I spent a lot of time stressing about how it was coming together, how the audios turned out, the right formatting, the right voice, if it all made sense, and so on and so on. This project alone was a full time job. That’s without seeing clients, facilitating the Organic Tribe,…

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4 Unconventional Things to Say to Escape A Conventional Conversation

Photo Source Have you ever been stuck in a conversation that makes you want to scratch your eyeballs out? I’d wager the more conscious and unconventional you live, the more injury your poor eyes endure. You probably don’t want to lie or feel inauthentic. And you don’t want to cause a scene or be rude or hurtful (that’s not very authentic either). But you don’t want to be there either. Why is it that we think being authentic is going to cause so much pain or rejection? I started to learn this awhile back when I had a conversation with a women who was radically authentic and invited me to be the same. It was so freaking liberating! There was nothing offensive about it, because I could tell it was coming from a good heart. And I had so much more trust for her because I knew it was all…

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6 Tips to Get More Blog Comments

I had a question several weeks ago about how to get more blog comments. I’ve talked a bit in that post about my experience with blog comments, why I turned them off and on again, and how it’s important to DIG IN to our reasons why we think we need them and how they affect us. Photo Source Now, let me preface by saying I don’t think it’s beneficial to focus on the number of comments you’re getting (or not getting) on your blog. Tracking comment stats is one of the worst indicators of a thriving blog. In fact, since turning my comments back on, I get very few comments compared to previously. And if you’re on Facebook or Twitter, you’ll likely find you get more interaction there since those sites are meant to be more social anyway. So before we even look at any tips to get blog comments…

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Connecting With Children (It Doesn’t Have To Be Awkward)

It use to be awkward for me to speak or connect with children. I would ask them the customary questions: How old are you? What grade are you in? What’s your favorite subject? What do you want to be when you grow up? (Kinda similar to how I use to talk to adults actually: What do you do? How’s the weather? Time flies huh?) You know, the kind of questions that you don’t really listen for the answers. But then I started meeting children who liked to make up their their own age (or name), who didn’t go to school, and who demanded (not with words but with their very presence and the way they experienced life) a whole new kind of interaction. And it was awkward at first. I didn’t know what to say or how to say it. It was uncomfortable to be alone with a child I…

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The Great Blog Comment Debate (Or Why I’ve Turned Mine Off And Back On Again)

I spent the first few years of my blog being on the “For” side of the Great Blog Comment Debate: adamantly for blog comments on blogs. To not have comments seemed pointless (among other things) and I was a little judgmental about it. Then I spent the last year growing my business and a multitude of reasons shifted my ideas. I’ve now had blog comments turned off on all posts for about 5 months. I’m going to speak in this post both as a blogger, a reader and an authentic business owner on my experience and experimentation with blog comments. Yes. It’s called “fear”.   The Blog Comment Debate Will Vary Bloggers will adamantly (and sometimes rudely) insist that to have a blog means you “should” have comments allowed, that those comments should go live instantly so no one has to be “approved” (after perhaps a captcha feature to prevent…

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