Posts Tagged "compassion"

When Your Good Life Makes Others Feel Guilty

I’ve been seeing a lot of those posts on Facebook, where a person apologizes for loving their life too loudly, and reassures everyone that it’s not actually perfect. They explain that they tend to focus on the good for their own benefit, but then they might rattle off all the things that suck to assure others that they are not trying to make anyone feel guilty. I’m torn on this. I understand the intention. I know none of us wants to portray something that isn’t realistic. And I know we want to be mindful of how our actions affect another human being. But is bringing our mindfulness practice, our personal growth, our spiritual awareness, or joy, or our embodiment of love down a level really helping anyone (ourselves included)? You all know I share the depths of my soul, my emotional tornados, and my process through it all quite freely….

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One Bag of Tricks = One Thankful Stranger (and a whole lot of emotion)

It’s crazy how much this topic makes my heart pound and my stomach clench. My body was betraying me when it all went down yesterday and it has done it every time I think about it since, most especially as I try to relate it all to you. Obviously there are some things to DIG IN to here for me. It all went down yesterday at Target. Zeb and I had just left our mama-son move date (Thor, if you’re curious) and were looking at bedroom furniture ideas for his new room, but of course that meant a detour through the LEGO/YuGiOh section of the toy department first. As we’re standing there looking at droids, and speeders, and things I can’t remember the name of to save my life, I heard a tiny little guy from one aisle over crying loudly. Now as a mama, my heart aches when any…

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Being Compassionate Toward Others {Not To Be Confused with a Doormat}

I have been dealing with a family that I assumed was normal and was trying to be compassionate with. It turns out they are sociopaths with no conscience. How can we be compassionate without being taken advantage of? – A Facebook Sistah Ah, boundaries come to mind first. Compassionate doesn’t mean sacrificial. Compassion includes yourself. It means seeing beneath another person’s behaviors to the pain or fear or (tragic) attempts to meet their needs. It means choosing to see them with empathy, to understand what brought them to this place. And sometimes it means compassionately saying “no” or “I love you and I’m not okay with this” or stepping away, removing yourself from something that is hurting you or others. Even “sociopaths” are human beings with a long history of hurt or fear and no other tools, still doing the best they can, even if that’s not very wonderful at…

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Dads with Guns Need Compassion Too

Photo Source Recently a video has been going around YouTube and Facebook of a very angry dad responding to a very angry daughter by using a gun against one of her possessions and eliciting some very angry responses from everyone. I wasn’t going to reply to this at all for a few reasons, 1) I don’t want to perpetuate anger (which is why I’m not linking to any external sources) and 2) it didn’t feel right. But I’ve been asked enough times – and prodded a few times to react – that I’m going to do my best to respond. Here’s What I See I only watched for a couple minutes – partially because my internet was just too slow and partially because it brought about so much sadness that I saw no purpose in continuing. I can only reflect on what I see and what it triggers within me…

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Organic Wisdom: Understanding Through Compassion

True understanding is found through compassion. – my Yogi teabag For some godawful reason, Northern Michigan has confused August with a season to get cold. Coming from Nevada, it makes no sense to my body to wake up shivering, but I do love any excuse to make hot tea in the morning. There’s just something about it, the routine maybe…filling the teapot, lighting the stove, warming my hands by the flame and then with my hot mug. Sipping until it’s cool enough to drink. Slowing down. Not jumping into my day. I also love my Yogi tea nuggets of wisdom, just a tiny phrase to meditate on while I roll my hot mug between my cold hands. This morning’s wisdom was the one above. Compassion. It’s been a word on my tongue a lot lately. Compassion. And how often it’s lacking in our words, our thoughts (judgments), our reactions (especially…

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Is Our Anti-Child Society Your Fault?

We live in an adult-centered, anti-child world where mistreatment of children is considered, not just appropriate, but preferred. At best, kids are considered loud, messy and exhausting. At worst, they are considered inherently “bad” and in need of training, which is usually doled out in the form of mental, emotional or physical abuse. It’s true that children are the only group that is still boldly and legally discriminated against. They are the only people who are legally allowed to be hit, stolen from or held against their will. There is even a movement to ban the “brats” from public places based on nothing but their age. Think about any of these sentiments said about a particular race and you’ll see my point. It is a very anti-child society we live within. Of course, all of this instills in children a belief that they are less than, broken or bad. And…

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What Are You Holding? Space + Vision vs. Limitations.

A lot has happened since I experienced my perspective shift toward receiving. I’ve experienced such an incredible insurge of insight and experience in the matters of support, creating tribes and the intertwining acts of creating our worlds. There is no separating these exchanges from Who We Are. We give. We receive. We shine. Sometimes the exchange feels big – an A-ha moment that rocks your world, the purchase of something that brings beauty into your life, a new commitment or change. Sometimes it feels pretty small – a tip left for the waiter, a smile to a stranger, a phone call from a friend. But more and more I’m recognizing one of the greatest gifts to give or receive IS the most simple: Our presence. Holding Space + Vision With Our Presence My Visionary Mom team is wrapping up this month and I can undoubtedly say the women I’ve come…

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