Rethinking Everything (And Being On Stage)

The Rethinking Everything Conference was amazing. This was our 3rd “unschooling” conference, but this one was so much more than unschooling. It’s that whole-life unschooling thing we were talking about, applying these principles to every area of your life.

There were workshops, talks and discussions on everything from parenting and education to health, work, sustainable housing, travel, barefooting and more. There were funshops for shaving cream sculptures, taking apart electronics, gaming, wand making, Lego, copeira, fencing, salsa dancing and hooping. We even took part in a documentary!

But the best part of any conference is the community. For five days we took over the conference center; we created our own village in the middle of Fort Worth. And we thrived in the atmosphere of love, acceptance, authenticity and cooperation. It was amazing and difficult to leave.

I can’t even begin to describe to you what we took away from the weekend: so many self-realizations, new friendships and amazing levels of awareness. Our minds and hearts expanded so many times that we were practically vibratingat the end of each day. It’s something you must experience to understand, so I’ll just leave it at that.

Instead I’m going to share just one small moment of the weekend. Three short minutes in which I pushed myself to do something completely outside my comfort zone.

26. Be on stage.

I have a really hard time under a spot light. Whether it’s calling into a radio show or being called on in class, I always feel the same jittering, stomach-flopping, heart-racing nerves threatening to twist me up. And I am ready to get over that.

Yeah, I freaking did it. I hooped on stage. And I learned a few things about myself too.

  1. When I’m nervous I have to pee. Like 17 times. In an hour.
  2. I take things way too seriously.
  3. I’m incredibly hard on myself.

I worked myself up until I was positively jittering. Which of course means I dropped my hoop twice (one of them hitting my own child in the head). And then I forgot at least half of what I wanted to actually do. And then I proceeded to tear myself down afterward.

But if you’re going to push yourself to do something new and challenging that scares the piss out of you, there is no better crowd than that loving, accepting one I mentioned above. While I was busy watching my taped performance, criticizing myself and feeling like crap, no less than 5 people walked up to tell me how amazing it was. And over the next two days I heard the same from a dozen more. I had somehow amazed and inspired them, adults and kids. It didn’t mattered that I had dropped the hoop or forgotten my moves or shook from nerves. I had still had fun and inspired others to do the same.

Okay, so are you ready to see it? Promise not to laugh? Alright, here goes….5 months of hooping and a really fun song (I Don’t Mind by Imagine Dragons) and this is what you get:

First Hooping “Performance” from Tara Wagner on Vimeo.

No, I’m not satisfied. And I won’t be until I can get up there and not feel nervous. I’m going to keep doing this; pushing myself. Because even when it doesn’t, it still feels so amazing. I may not hoop next time, but you will see me up there again.

Inspiration Monday – Heading South

Bench Monday - Dancing Rabbit Edition
[Current location: Dancing Rabbit Eco-Village, Missouri]

We couldn’t be more excited! We’re heading south to Dallas, Texas for the annual Rethinking Everything Conference starting on Friday. Although  it’s their 14th year, it is only our first year attending RE and we can’t wait to spend 5+ days with some awesome conference veterans doing some awesome conference connecting.

Some inspiring things we’re looking forward to:

  • Seeing some Texan friends
  • Joining in the stop-motion animation fun
  • Hooping with new friends
  • Discussing Big Ideas
  • Adding our voices to the documentary
  • Playing in the pool
  • Eating yummy food

Will you be there?

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I’m going to attempt to capture the highlights of the conference from my perspective.

First of all, I have to give a huge heartfelt Thank You to Flo and all the others who helped for not only organizing and executing this conference, but for offering all the speeches on tape for free. (I’m really looking forward to hearing those I missed!)

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Nearly Instant Nitrogen Ice Cream

Of the talks we attended, a few stand out to me the most:

Miranda’s talk and chat Radical Thoughts for Radical Unschoolers stands out because I couldn’t agree with her any more than I already do. (Okay, except on the fate of the internet.) If only she blogged the full depth of her knowledge and her actions (hint hint). She spoke on the taboo subjects of religion, politics and *ahem*…I’ll say intimate relationships to avoid the spam. She tied it beautifully into sustainability and what could be our role as unschoolers. I totally enjoy hearing my friend talk, and chatting with like-minded individuals about the struggles of melding several “radical” lifestyles into one. My own Green Living chat should have been combined with hers!

The next chat that stands out was Pam Sorooshian’s Unschooling and Math. I do believe I’ve found a new favorite “veteran”! So many things overheard or read about unschooling today can easily give one the impression that education is a dirty word in the unschooling world. But the way in which Pam speaks and shares her thoughts, so wonderfully melds the ideas of non-coercive learning with the most uncertain subject of math – and not because it “needs” to be learned but just because it can be so much fun. I got some wonderful ideas on how to support Zeb as he learns and outgrows his own math phobia; things like interjecting the word “yet” or using the term “school math” (as in validating with “Yes, school math does suck”) or new games to share and things to educate myself on. In other words, I need to get over my OWN math phobia!

Rain Fordyce’s The Peace Treaty was so freaking powerful I can’t even comment yet.

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Zeb tying his boogie board onto another boy’s wrist.

There were chats we enjoyed as well; Our LOUD life – about living on the road; Secret Society of Unschooling Dads – which I’m told was an interesting and frustrating experience for many; my Green Living and Sustainability chat. I really loved Strangers in a Strange Land – all about how to cope with the saddening, stressful, or disparaging encounters with “traditional” parenting, such as when our children witness other children being spanked or ridiculed. Ronnie posted the highlights from the chat here: Blog of the Zombie Princess

All of the chats and speakers were good, powerful stuff and I so appreciate their contributions.

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Zeb and his new friend, A

We didn’t do many funshops. Our downtime was either spent in the pool or decompressing in the room. Zeb had a blast with the gamers and goofing around with the tribe. He made a new close friend, A. whom we hope to visit. We spent a lot of time with old friends and new friends. And it was so awesome to meet some of the online friends I’ve made through blogging and Twitter…ing. Like Colleen, Amanda and Tracey. Did I mention I even dreaded Tracey’s hair??

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A Few Twitter Moms (me, @aenclade, @autodidactmama)

I just can’t describe to you how powerful attending an unschooling conference can be. I know it can also be overwhelming especially for those of us that are either sensitive to large crowds or those that are going in without already having made a few connections. But it’s so worth going out on a limb for.

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Justin’s Drum Circle on the beach

And…well, there is one more thing that came about on this trip; an intuitive feeling from Justin about something he’s been thinking on for a long time. But it’s SO BIG and SO LIFE CHANGING (not to mention a bit scary – for me anyway) that it really deserves it’s own post. Next time, k? ;)

[Flickr group: Good Vibrations Unschooling Conference Photos and my entire Flickr Set: Good Vibrations Conf 2009]

Home from Good Vibrations Conference

wave jumping

And we’re still riding those happy vibes! So many thoughts and emotions swirled around us this weekend and still so many things to sort out and post. I don’t know where to start!

I think the first thing that stood out to Justin and me was the internal theme the weekend seemed to have for us. Last year at Live and Learn our internal focus was clearly planted in being the best parents we could be. But this year we both agreed our focus was more towards being the best people possible. For to be passionate, inspired, interested people is to be loving, inspiring, interesting parents.

Waves

So while Zeb met new friends, played new games, swam in the pool or at the beach and generally had a blast, Justin and I were listening, thinking, talking, learning, exploring and opening ourselves up to all the weekend had to offer us this year. We all came away different people – jovial, excited, kinder – but Justin and I came away with a few new decisions and a definitive sense of peace about life unfolding.

Wave Fun

Living in the unschooling bubble for seven entire days was unlike anything. The joyfulness evident in every face, the acceptance emanating from every body, the confidence and openness and friendliness in the kids, the common thread between the adults – that although none of us are perfect, our first priority is still peace, respect and love. For one brief week the world felt perfect and hopeful.

It’s hard to assimilate back into “normal” life after an experience like this. It may have only been seven days away but it was a culture shock nonetheless to rewitness demeaning parenting or unhappy children again or move immediately into the groove of overtime and repeated justification of our lifestyle. I felt so wrapped up in the possibilities of LIFE within such an atmosphere of genuine acceptance and individual appreciation that it was a slap in the face to realize just how far “the real world” is from sharing in the same experiences.

I feel as if I’m still there with 500+ friends of all ages. My heart is filled with the words, the kindness, the smiles and hugs we shared. I’m still overflowing with the uplifting presence that creates in me the kind of mother person I feel is authentic. I’m bursting at the seams with ideas and thoughts I’m ready to share with anyone willing to lend me an open ear and a few seconds. My heart is swollen.

Let me hold onto this awhile longer. Let me wrap myself up in the slice of world we’ve created and take in the warmth it radiates. Let me float away on my belief the whole world is feeling the way I am right now. Just a little bit longer…

Life is so good.

I’m pickin up Good Vibrations!

Unschooling: Inspired, Not Required
Unschooling: Inspired, Not Required

The truck has been decorated, the bags are (almost) packed – as are half our “toys” – and we’re all humming the Beach Boys.

Justin will be coordinating a drum circle on the beach, I’m giving a “green living” chat and Zeb is looking forward to gaming with new and old friends. Talks, chats, funshops, beach parties, sleepovers, concerts, talent shows…not to mention inspiration to last us weeks! Anyone who’s been to an unschooling conference or gathering knows the serious awesomeness that awaits us and we can hardly wait!

Hope to see some of you there!