Posts Tagged "hair"

Free To Never Notice

I shaved my head again last week. It wasn’t in a moment of enlightenment or courage this time. It didn’t bring with it all the ecstasy and liberation. This time it was done out of frustration toward myself, almost like “pulling my hair out”. I had noticed how attached I had become to my hair, how much I cared about how it was looking, what it portrayed, and what others might think about it. And that pissed me off. Old patterns die hard, and even after several years of feeling free of that one, it had snuck back in. And I was not okay with that. I was angry. Mostly at myself. So out of anger, I shaved it all off again. Like I said I didn’t feel so liberated and joyful this time around. Instead I felt horrible, ugly, and full of self-hatred. Yes, self-hatred – as I witnessed…

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One Year Later: “Do you miss your dreads?” {video}

I’ve gotten a lot of that question, especially on YouTube where new people find this still-awesome-to-watch video. So I decided to do an update video, mainly for you YouTubers who have asked, and partially just cuz. In it: the answer to that question, “do you miss your dreads?” and if I have any regrets what I do to naturally style my short hair my awesome new sidecut plenty of weird faces (I’m, er…expressive) why I kept it shaved off for so long what I learned about myself/experienced in the process some of the crazy things people have said about my shaved head a challenge to those of you who think you can’t do something radical P.S. If you’re tempted and need a little inspiration and support to take the leap, check out Tiffani’s challenge. Oh hell, why not share the ever-so-awesome video again too.

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The Life Lessons of Purple Hair

I did something I haven’t done since I was a teenager. I applied chemicals to my head, drained the tips of color, and filled it back in with purple. Yes, I’m the “Organic Sister”…my life orbiting around the natural, the innate, the organic, the mindful. And I bleached and colored my hair. (@tarawagner on Instagram) I don’t use shampoo. I don’t condition. I don’t use styling product or tools. (I use water, and my fingertips, and that be all, folks.) I cut it myself and I intentionally avoid products because, quite frankly, figuring out what’s safe and what’s not is a royal pain in the arse and why bother when it’s not really necessary. Having dreads for almost 4 years got me into this habit of minimalism. Then, shaving my head placed me square in the habit of fully alive. Still, it’s sort of a big deal for me, being…

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Part Three: On the Experience of Shaving My Head and Being Free (Before, During and After Photos and Video!)

I’ve sat here looking at a blank screen grasping at inadequate words to describe the shaving of my head for way too long. Incredible? Weak. Empowering? Still weak. Enlightening? Closer. Let me start by backing up a little to the beginning of my weekend. We’ll see where it goes from there. The Start of One Incredible, Life-Changing Weekend Tiffani, my badass freeplaylife photographer, arrived in Orlando on Friday evening. Now let me just say something about Tiffani. She’s flipping amazing. Colorful. Playful. Daring. Vibrant. Envelope-pushing. But she also has this deeply sensitive side that you only get to see in her photos or videos or in long conversations about Life. So I knew she was the perfect person to help me commemorate this powerful step. Because she totally “got it”. ♥ We had an amazing weekend that I know I’ll be talking more about later. But the photos! Oh wow,…

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Part One: Releasing and Letting Go (Video)

I wrote about some of the inner work my 30th birthday was bringing me. Here’s where I am 3 days later…and be sure to watch until about half way through to hear what’s in the plans for my hair this week! Eeeee! Be sure to check out freeplaylife. Want to read more about my process from dreadlocks to a shaved head? All dreadlock posts from start to finish are here. Part One: My announcement video of my decision to shave my dreads Part Two: A more in-depth, emotional and raw video on my decision Part Three: Putting The Process of Shaving Them into Words (and lots of photos) Part Four: A GORGEOUS Video and words from other women who’ve done the same And lastly: Burning My Dreadlocks: The Final Goodbye

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3 Year Dread Anniversary!

Guess what?! My dreads are 3 years old, as of May 17/18! Well, most of them. I felt like making a little video to talk about how things are going, what they’re doing and what this past year has taught me. I also thought it might be fun to create a little game called Count How Many Times Tara Can Say Um in 8 Minutes. Taking shots is purely optional. Other dread-y links you dreaded folks might want: A Radical Change in First Impressions I Am Not My Hair One Year Old Dreads Two Years and Authenticity FAQ About My Dreads No ‘Poo for Dreadlocks And photos of my dreads….  

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Goodbye Hair

Today was hair cutting day. The rain had stopped, so we set up shop outside with some clippers, a pair of scissors and a camp chair. I’m happy that Justin and Zeb are both glad to have me cut their hair; it saves money and resources to do a simple cut at home. Most of the hair went into the trash but I’m assuming the rest will end up in a bird nest or as humus. Zeb was first up. Oh, it was hard. I so loved his long curls. But he’s very tenderheaded which makes brushing difficult and infrequent. Because of this the back was starting to dread and that wasn’t what he wanted. He wanted short hair. He was tired of being mistaken for a girl, tired of getting hair in his eyes, tired of trying to comb it out. So as hard as it was for me…

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No ‘Poo for Dreadlocks

I’m sure there are all of two of you with dreads that read my blog, but when I was curious about this and searched my booty off for info, I found zilch. So, I’m filling a gap. What is no ‘poo you ask? It’s a method of washing you hair based off the belief that shampoo is a conspiracy; actually causing our scalp to create more oil, thus perpetuating the false idea that we need to buy massive amounts of expensive, highly-scented shampoo to fix our greasy, smelly, embarassing problem and be forever scalp-beholden to “the man”. (kidding! …..mostly) Okay, anti-consumerism tendencies aside, shampoo is a completely useless product that does cause us to produce more oils. No ‘poo uses baking soda and apple cider vinegar to wash instead and break the cycle. Read more about it here. I’ve heard of no ‘poo from so. many. bloggers. but everyone seemed to…

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More posts about hair?!

I figured after posting all about my own hair, I should fill in some gaps on Justin’s hair. After reading on Path To Freedom’s blog about their Justin’s experiment of using no shampoo, my Justin decided to give this a try. He’s shampooed exactly once since reading this back in March and has had no problems at all. He does a quick rinse with water to wash out any dirt or sawdust from the jobsite. (Others often “no-poo” with baking soda and vinegar, but Justin hasn’t seen the need.) To back this up, I offer you two articles. The first is provided by Jennifer about the Shampoo Scam. The second is in regards to “no-poo” provided via AboutMyPlanet.com. But the best part of Justin’s hair is the haircuts. For a couple years he’s opted to spend $15 at the Hair Cut Conveyor Belt down the street. I finally convinced him…

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I Am Not My Hair

[If you haven’t heard the song, “I Am Not My Hair” by India.Arie, I highly suggest checking out this remix with P!nk.] I’ve been thinking and I’d like to know where in history so much importance was first given to our hair. When did it become Who We Are, the first thing people see and judge us by? In every written record of history from biblical references to cave drawings, our hair has been depicted through the centuries and through many cultures as mystical, seductive, all powerful. It commands attention. It tells the room we’ve entered how much money we make, where we might work or whether or not we’re good friend material. But as India.Arie says, does the way I wear my hair make me a better person, a better friend or determine my integrity? To much of the world, the answer seems to be “yes”. It’s strange how…

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