“Just Keep Moving”? No Thanks.

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“Life is like riding a bicycle. To keep your balance, you must keep moving.”
― Albert Einstein

There are so many quotes by Einstein that I lovelovelove.

But when I read this one, I kinda went…ick.

Not to say it isn’t sometimes true. Sometimes Life gives us the opportunity to choose to just keep moving. Take a deep breath and the next step.

But too many times in my life I’ve applied the “just keep moving” mantra of conventional wisdom and found I was going alright…in the wrong direction. Or worse, the same direction I’d been headed when I’d gotten myself into the situation that required me to “just keep moving”.

But I choose not to live a life in which my best option is to just move through it.

I want to live a life in which I can jump off that damn bicycle (that might just as well be heading in circles) and sit and savor a sunset, a laugh, a moment of perfection found in everything. Something I don’t find when I’m just moving through my days or my life.

Life is meant to be savored, absorbed, adored, experienced.

Even (or especially) the messy parts, the parts that stretch me, that rub uncomfortably against me, can be sat with, experienced, learned from. In fact, I’ve found that has always been my best answer to them.

Because what do we get by avoiding them but another opportunity to experience them?

Nope, I don’t want to move in circles or keep heading in the same atrocious direction. I want to hop out of the madness and listen deeper to the very thing I’m tempted to rush through.

The Magic of Digging Deep

There are times in your life when things come to you and through you. These are the times when you’re heart and soul gets poured into something and you not only create what you believe in, but are created and healed at the same time.

This is magic. This is when the dots are connected and it’s all beyond words and it makes sense anyway.

This is Life. It’s when the mess is beautiful and our hearts are cracked open and we just get it, whatever “it” there is to get.

This is what Digging Deep is for me.

It’s my heart and soul, the foundation to build Truth on, my creation and my healing, my message to the world…that you’re not broken, you’re not bad, you’re not helpless in your circumstance.

You are powerful. You are amazing. You have capabilities no one else has and a purpose no one else can fulfill.

And it’s time for you to understand what is getting in your way.

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Saying Yes to Life

Taking It All In

I have a little story for you, a story of opportunity, of growth, of saying Yes.

Many months ago I had this little tiny nudge. A nudge to shift, to relaunch, to step up to the plate of my life.

And I said yes. Actually, I said “Okay“.

And because “Okay” is really just a thinly veiled “Okay, I’m having doubts, but I’ll try to tentatively trust you” Life answered in return with, “Okay, I hear your doubts, so we’ll take this slow.”

So, for about four months, I moved slowly. There were a few moments of “Um…” or even one or two of “Eek!” but mostly it was a comfortable little path.

Then right before I relaunched, as I was sitting in my space – that quiet, meditative, soulful space – I felt it again.

But it wasn’t a nudge this time. It was more like a request: A request for more Trust, an offer of growth and connection, an opportunity.

It was the question, “Are you feeling ready yet?

Not demanding or pushy, just a heartfelt question.

I had no idea what it really meant and I was filled with fear about it. Oh boy, was I. Because saying yes to something you can’t see…well, that’s just fracking terrifying.

But I took a deep breath anyway…and I said Yes. And I really meant Yes this time. So I opened my whole heart and my whole soul to receive it.

And Life Rushed In

Do you know what happens when you say Yes! to Life, to an offer from your Source, to the nudge in your heart you’ve been ignoring?

Opportunity.

In the moment, opportunity looks a lot like stress, overwhelm, uncomfortable changes, upheaval, odd new circumstances, and a really messy experience. It might start feeling like being engulfed by fear, or even sadness or anger.

(Or maybe that’s all just me.)

But if you keep saying Yes, if you can remain open and trusting….

Well, in hindsight you can see it’s all just Life rushing into your open heart as fast as it can. It’s not going to miss the opportunity after all. :)

And so because Life’s opportunities are often big, it can be stressful.
Because it comes so fast, you can feel overwhelmed.
When it’s new (and it will be new), it can feel uncomfortable.
And since it’s often demanding, it may seem like upheaval.
And because we’re human, it’s often messy.

But in reality, it’s really, really good. And here’s why…

It All = Strength Training

Looking back on these past 3 months, I see what I thought was pain and obstacles and stress. But you know what I really see now?

Strength training.

My coach has a way of putting it that I like. She compares it to weight lifting. You put resistance on your muscles to build them, to grow them.

When you say “Yes!” (and really mean it), Life begins its job of giving you opportunity to strengthen and grow you.

And that can feel tiring, overwhelming, even painful at times. Because it’s usually going to start with the discovery and healing of all the things that are going to get in your way of what comes next.

You can call it struggle, or strengthening; pain, or healing. But only one perspective is going to get you through it. Only one is going to keep you saying “Yes”, keep your heart open and authentic and expanding.

And that’s worth it.

Because as ugly as it will feel as you go through it, as someone emerging from the other side, I can promise you it’s amazing.

What are you saying “Yes” to in your life?

Sharing My Message from the Bay

I have a short message to share with you today…

My Message from the Bay from Tara Wagner on Vimeo.

And to expand on that…

When I started doing unschooling coaching last year, it was really very quick that I realized most of our challenges do not come from unschooling, but from our parenting struggles and so I began to offer coaching specified toward organic parenting advice.

But in this past year I’ve gained clarity on the fact that unschooling and parenting are not hard, unless something more personal is getting in our way.

Sounds kinda obvious, right?

But what I found was that my coaching was becoming less about parenting or learning without school and more about our deep fundamental beliefs as women, as human beings.

I realized that when we shifted the focus from what we are doing to what we are believing, everything – not just parenting or education – became easier and clearer. Because it’s those beliefs that affect not only our parenting, but our ability to be the partners we want to be, and create the lives or dreams we want to create.

Our deepest core beliefs shape everything we do.

So much of my message – the one I mentioned above in the video – hangs on that sentence. And that’s why my blog and my coaching have shifted.

I’m still working with parents. But more than that, I’m working with people (women, really – whether they are mothers or not) who want to organically and authentically create something in their life and who are ready for the tools, support and resources to make it happen.

Because that’s what my message is about: Being Organic all the way to our core. And without any doubt, this is what I’m here to share.

If you’re ready to create something amazing, empowering and supportive, I’m ready to offer you the tools, the encouragement and even the accountability to make it happen.

(P.S. We were at Bodega Bay, not Botega Bay like I said in the video.)

The Carousel of Leaving

Carousel of Time

I feel like I’ve been here before, this familiar but different place. It’s transition, known and unknown to us.

We’ve already said our goodbyes a year ago, but only for the year. It was difficult but exciting. And now we’re embarking for the last time and with no plans for return. And it’s not exactly difficult but the excitement is not quite the same.

There’s no fanfare, no newness to our departure this time. And yet this time it feels more like goodbye to us.

Just a few weeks ago I recorded my grandparent’s talking about their childhood, how they met and their life together. And then last night, as we joined them for dinner, I saw time fold upon itself as their past and the present showed itself to me as one carousel.

I saw Justin and I sitting across the table from our own grandchildren, looking back on our own life and all we created. I saw how quickly the seasons go round and thought thoughts that break my heart.

We’re tying up the loose ends now, packing our bicycles on the back of our new home, sending off for new birth certificates that will arrive after we are gone, receiving driving lessons from the people we love and spending our last moments with parents and grandparents.

Yes, we’ve been here before, but this is different.

I feel as though I’m moving round and round, up and down as I realize my dizzying lack of focus or productivity is really my own dragging feet and attempt at distraction, torn between the road ahead and the pain of saying goodbye again and possibly really meaning it this time.

This is life; changing, yet cyclical. Dizzying unless you take the time to really notice what passes by.

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