Posts Tagged "mindfulness"

The More I Know Myself, The Less I Care

The more I know myself, really and deeply know my Self, the less I’m finding I care… I don’t care what I look like. I don’t care that I make mistakes. I don’t care that my thoughts go off on wild, unhelpful tangents. I don’t care that I get afraid or triggered. I don’t care to spend so much time Digging Deep. (Gasp! I know!) The more I know myself, the less I find I care about others too… I don’t care what others think of me. I don’t care if they agree or disagree with me. I don’t have endless opinions or fears on the choices they make either. And I don’t care if I’m accepted or rejected. (Yes, despite my equally strong drive to not blindly follow the norm, this was very much a big thing for me.) I just don’t have the energy anymore, let alone the…

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Thoughts on Parenting for Show

If you haven’t read it already, this commentary on the public humiliation of children that has become so prevalent in the social media age of parenting is well worth reading and absorbing. Public shaming is awful and is nothing less than societally sanctioned parental bullying. Especially harmful to the young people against whom it is used as a weapon, the ramifications will resonate throughout their lives. They aren’t as tough as we pretend we are. (Read the whole thing here.) In addition to what is so eloquently said there, I think it’s important to examine why so many parents feel the need to “parent publicly”. Is it to “prove ourselves”? To save face? To feel validated? To make a statement to others? None of these puts our real focus on showing up in our children’s lives (both for their struggles and their wins). Interestingly, many parents I know will recoil…

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One Bag of Tricks = One Thankful Stranger (and a whole lot of emotion)

It’s crazy how much this topic makes my heart pound and my stomach clench. My body was betraying me when it all went down yesterday and it has done it every time I think about it since, most especially as I try to relate it all to you. Obviously there are some things to DIG IN to here for me. It all went down yesterday at Target. Zeb and I had just left our mama-son move date (Thor, if you’re curious) and were looking at bedroom furniture ideas for his new room, but of course that meant a detour through the LEGO/YuGiOh section of the toy department first. As we’re standing there looking at droids, and speeders, and things I can’t remember the name of to save my life, I heard a tiny little guy from one aisle over crying loudly. Now as a mama, my heart aches when any…

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The Life Lessons of Purple Hair

I did something I haven’t done since I was a teenager. I applied chemicals to my head, drained the tips of color, and filled it back in with purple. Yes, I’m the “Organic Sister”…my life orbiting around the natural, the innate, the organic, the mindful. And I bleached and colored my hair. (@tarawagner on Instagram) I don’t use shampoo. I don’t condition. I don’t use styling product or tools. (I use water, and my fingertips, and that be all, folks.) I cut it myself and I intentionally avoid products because, quite frankly, figuring out what’s safe and what’s not is a royal pain in the arse and why bother when it’s not really necessary. Having dreads for almost 4 years got me into this habit of minimalism. Then, shaving my head placed me square in the habit of fully alive. Still, it’s sort of a big deal for me, being…

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Organic Wisdom :: The Tool versus Its Purpose

I like to share some of the quotes I post on Twitter and Facebook, with some of my expanded thoughts and feelings on it here. “Organic Wisdom” is what I have found speaking to me in those quiet moments, that guides me and that echoes Truth in my life. Please feel free to download, or share this image in any way you’d like. I remember when these words rang out in my heart. It was a family game night. Or so we insisted. We had been too busy all week and it was showing in our interactions. (A busy life is toxic to relationships, after all.) Justin and I knew we needed to slow things down and reconnect. So we called for a game night. But Zeb wasn’t into it that night. He had his own plans. We knew reconnecting was important, so we insisted. “You’re going to play games…

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Organic Wisdom :: Opportunities for Anger

Every Friday I intend to share some of the quotes I post on Twitter and Facebook, with some of my expanded thoughts and feelings on it here. “Organic Wisdom” is what I have found speaking to me in those quiet moments, that guides me and that echoes Truth in my life. Please feel free to download, or share this image in any way you’d like. :: “He made me so angry!” :: “You are making me angry!” :: “Stop what you’re doing before you make Mommy angry.” How often have we each heard those words coming out of our mouths? No one can “make us” angry. They just can’t. They can only trigger the anger that is dwelling within us, allowing us to experience the pain we’re burying beneath the anger. Sure, they can give us the opportunity to create anger. But that’s a choice too and we make ourselves out to…

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Organic Wisdom :: Think About It

Side note: We’re at DrumStrong with The Conscious Caravan this weekend! If you’re in the area I’d love to see you there. And stay tuned for the official introduction to the rest of the Caravan! Every Friday I try to share some of the quotes I post on Twitter and Facebook, with some of my expanded thoughts and feelings on it here. “Organic Wisdom” is what I have found speaking to me in those quiet moments, that guides me and that echoes Truth in my life. Please feel free to download, or share this image in any way you’d like. We live in a fast-paced culture. Ideas, thoughts, images, words, stimulation in one form or another is constantly flying by our heads. We’re over-stressed, over-committed, and overwhelmed. And although we know there is a time to process, to feel, to sink into our sorrow and experience what it’s offering us,…

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External Reflections of an Internal Joy (My Thoughts on Meaningful Consumerism)

Tiffani and I were sitting on the edge of my bed when I had the epiphany (I’m calling it “The Epiphany with Tiffani”.) We were looking through my closet trying to find the perfect thing to wear during the dready photoshoot when she said something extremely obvious along the lines of “Pick something that reflects you and that you feel really good in” and I realized how much I felt “comfortable” in or “okay” in, but nothing to fit her description. I started talking about how much of my clothing I don’t actually *love* or that doesn’t fit me well and how much I dislike to shop because I can never find what I want and love, when it hit me that I had my closet and my head so full of what I didn’t want that I had no space in either for what I did! I know the…

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Stepping Into This Opening Space

Today is my last day online before I honor my intentions for The Holiday Reset challenge. I’m wrapping up my online commitments, setting my autoresponder and looking into this week with a bit of unknown. I feel two opposing forces within me, one with a desire to plan and organize and control this digital sabbatical I’m taking; the other to allow it to unfold and flow organically. The latter is winning out. But before I sign off for a week of stillness, I have many swirling thoughts to articulate. My weekend with Tiffani, my photographer, was incredible. Yes, the dreads are gone and she’s promised to have all the after photos and the videos ready for the world by next Wednesday, when I come back online. I have SO MUCH to share on that process, but I’m still stringing together inadequate words. Soon, I promise. But I do want to…

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The Holiday Reset Challenge: I Double-Dog Dare You! (Video)

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