Where We Are Now

Where We Began

I told you I’d tell you my current location later. That’s because it comes with a rather lengthy explanation.

We’re back where we began, in Las Vegas.

And we’ll be here for a little bit. No, not “home” because it has a distinct “not home anymore” feel to it. Which feels really good to me, I might add.

Those of you that have been reading this blog for any length of time probably remember how I feel about my hometown. That is to say I’m less than crazy about being here. In fact, I’m pretty sure when I signed up for birth, I thought it was going to happen in some other place. I’ve been a wee bit resentful ever since. Las Vegas has some great things about it, but it’s just not for me.

So what, you may be asking, are we doing back here? Well, I’m going to tell, complete with headlines, because that’s how I roll:

The Story

About a month ago began a really bumpy ride. A long, seemingly endless string of frustrations. The kind that force you to stop and ask “What the f*ck is going on here??

No joke, it was insane. First, a major water leak that ruined some of our things and soaked our beds. Then the injector pump stranded us at the side of the road. Then it was the alternator, then the batteries, then a strange wire that runs between the two, then the glow plugs, then the shocks, then the driveline, then a timing belt, then the veggie oil’s fuel pump. It was a domino effect and each time we fixed one thing, something else would break the very next day.

Nearly four weeks of this people!

If it hadn’t been for friends meeting us in Albuquerque and traveling with us, keeping us sane and safe should anything happen, I’m pretty sure we would have ended up killing each other. I’ll spare you the ugly details. Because having friends nearby makes all the difference. But through the experience, one really cool thing happened:

We suddenly became really clear on what we wanted.

As thoughts of “settling in” long-term in New Mexico were dancing in our minds, we knew we were not ready to settle down. We aren’t ready to stop yet.

And the more we sat stranded in New Mexico, the more we felt it was time to put up or shut up, make the decision, commit, one way or the other. And so we did. We talked, the three of us, about what we wanted. And we all came to the same decision.

The Decision

We’ve decided to stay on the road for as long as we can.

The world and the economy are changing: peak oil, climate change, recession/depression, war and corruption. While some people see that as a sign to play it safe, we’re feeling pretty damn good about taking more risks. We’ve taken advantage of a huge opportunity, one that may not always present itself.

Life and circumstances may not always allow us to travel, to meet such amazing people, see such rich and diverse things. Life is uncertain and sometimes volatile and it’s all the more reason for us to enjoy what we can while we have it. For some that means loving fully the place they are, or the people they’re with.

For us it means loving fully not having a place yet and enjoying  the road with each other. We want to give Zeb the opportunity to explore and experience. We want to explore and experience with him. We don’t want to put this off until Someday because we all know life never guarantees us a Someday.

Neither of our dreams is without sacrifices. We can sacrifice Now for the security of a permaculture, off-grid home or we can sacrifice a home for the adventure of a lifetime.

Not exactly an easy decision. But I’ve learned something about my sense of security. It’s a myth. It’s a false sense of something being there that doesn’t even exist.

The world is a dangerous place to be. Life is inherently messy. It’s full of hairpin turns and steep drop-offs and unexpected landslides. And we can sit far from the edge and feel secure but the risk is still there, maybe even greater, since we’ve made ourselves sitting ducks dependent on something outside our own daring ingenuity.

There is no protecting ourselves from danger; there’s only missing out on opportunity.

Ironically, as soon as we all made the decision to commit to this life, as soon as we got clear and cohesive on what we wanted,  Ol’ Benny stopped giving us trouble. I guess sometimes decisions we’re avoiding will just demand our attention.

Where We Are Now

Parked For Now

So that brings me back to Las Vegas.

After committing, the pieces fell into place smoothly and effortlessly. Benny is a great RV, but he’s not cut out for full-timing. So we need to upgrade and we needed a place to crash while we work out the details. My parents not only had a place for us to park, they have a handful of projects custom fit for us.

Justin is going to be installing a pergola, building a tool shed and probably helping to landscape a yard. After that he might be doing their crown molding and maybe a few other home improvements for them. I’m also helping my mom transition into a Real Foods, gluten-free diet.

And we’ll be using the time to sell Justin’s gasoline truck, sell Benny the Brave and various other things and purchase a diesel truck and a 5th wheel. The 5th wheel has been Zeb’s idea for awhile and he’s finally sold us on it. What can I say; he’s a persuasive kid. ;)

We’re also using the time to focus on working for ourselves. We have money to raise while we’re here, new ventures to launch and new ideas to investigate. Having this time at my parents’ place to focus on those things is an amazing blessing.

We’ll be here for three months, working, eating, playing with friends and enjoying the things we really do love about Vegas.

And come the beginning of the year, we’ll be back on the road.

Shameless Plug

The next three months are going to be crunch-time for us. Big projects, lots of work and more needed if we want to make this happen.

We would love your help.

Do you have a project you want done? Have you been considering scheduling a coaching session? If there’s something you need that we can help with, we’d love to work with you! You can check out our services here. (Travel may still be an option.)


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Inspiration Monday – Land of Enchantment

Land Of Enchantment (the view from our window)

New Mexico Grass

Our current backyard.

We’re still in New Mexico. And we’re starting to think this state has it in for us. ;) Just a few hours after pulling away from the mechanic, Benny stalled again. Different problem than last week, but not all-together new. Justin has dubbed New Mexico the Land of Entrapment.

*Deep breath*

We’re all feeling like Seattle is just not meant to be. Right now we’re outside Albuquerque, problem-solving an alternator issue that has everyone perplexed and you know what? I’m totally cool with that. The weather is gorgeous, the rv park is very inexpensive. And I’m working on a Really Big Project and all this downtime has been amazingly efficient for me. Another week like this and I may be ready to launch this thing within 2-4 weeks. :D (There you go, public accountability. Hold me to it, will ya?)

Justin’s not feeling so great about it all. He’s incredibly frustrated that what should work isn’t and no one knows why. No fun. :( Zeb has been pretty awesome though. He’s been helping out with a lot, even cleaning and cooking, and feels okay about missing the Lego conference (although we’re all still bummed).

I have no idea how long we’ll be here or where we’ll go next and I have no intention of thinking about that until next weekend at the soonest. I’m going to be hanging here in the Land of Enchantment, working on my Really Big Project and enjoying our pretty decent view.

Some inspiration in the meantime:

What’s Been Inspiring You?

To play along, post your own Inspiration Monday blog post about what’s been inspiring you this week – what’s lighting you on fire, filling you up or making you smile. A moment to share, a link, a joke. Add a mention to the post so I know it’s for real, then add you post to the form below.

P.S. This is about personal Inspiration, not just any old post to link up. Please share authentically. :)

Real Food On The Road

Breakfast of Champions
Breakfast of Champions

I’m not into food dogma, the “rules” that say if you eat this you’ll be healthy and live longer and if you don’t eat it you’ll live a miserable, disease-ridden life. And sadly, I’ve heard nearly those exact words.

What I am into is “instinctual” eating: tuning into your body and eating what makes you feel best at any given moment. Unfortunately, I think many of us lose those instincts amongst the myriad of fear-based teachings, blatant misinformation and cultural bias (as well as upbringings that taught us tings like The Clean Plate Club and extrinsic control of our bodies). I’ve found it important to research all sides, try things on for size and choose what makes sense to me.

I also feel within the bigger picture of Life there is no “right” or “wrong” and I often wonder if we’re all so determined to find a fountain of youth because we’re really just afraid of death.

All that being said, the three of us instinctively gravitate towards what is commonly referred to as “real foods”. The definition of that is somewhat obvious: no processed or genetically-modified foods, but also lots of fruits and veggies, pastured meats, fermented foods (like sauerkraut) and so on. On top of that, I personally feel fantastic when I avoid gluten the it’s Black Death (which it tends to feel like) and eat enough grass-fed beef to keep my joints feeling fantastic.

We also tend to eat seasonally. Summertime means mostly raw fruits and veggies with a small amount of pastured meats and very little dairy. In the winter I crave heavier meals, more meats and potatoes and lots of raw dairy. Zeb and Justin are fairly similar to me, but their meat consumption stays about the same year-round and Justin’s body never wants dairy.

I do feel there are foods that have been created to warp the hell out of our instincts, things like appetite-enhancers, sugars and bad fats can confuse us into wanting more initially. But I’ve found that if we indulge those cravings with both good and bad sources, our bodies will learn from the contrast and naturally desire the best versions for our needs.

Some things that make sense to us:

  • We need fat: Kids especially need a lot of fat, but so do adults. It’s good for our brains, our joints, cell production and our reproductive systems. Not all fats are bad.
  • Sugar is not the enemy: Sure processed sugar leaves us craving more, but that doesn’t make things like honey bad. And I do think our bodies can tell the difference between real and processed sugars given the opportunity to learn.
  • It’s as much in our heads as our stomachs: Things like fear, judgment, and personal issues around food – or gratitude, enjoyment and consciousness – create and prevent more disease than any one way of eating.

Yes, I feel we’re omnivores by nature. Yes, Real Foods make sense to me. Yes, I totally respect when something completely different makes sense to other people. Diversity is beautiful! What I don’t respect (and don’t tolerate on my blog) is the bullshit condemnation thrown around by certain foodie groups. Seriously, that kind of hatred or judgment is going to kill you long before the worst of foods possibly could.

Real Food On The Road

Now on to the topic at hand: Finding real food sources while traveling hasn’t been easy. Sometimes we’re stuck with a local supermarket (or ::gasp:: Walmart Supercenter).

We especially enjoy eating locally, like trying crawfish in Louisiana, eats brats in Wisconsin and Tex-Mex in New Mexico. And we do what we can for the rest:

  • Local Harvest hasn’t been as helpful as we had hoped. CSA’s aren’t usually open to transients and farmer’s markets keep falling on the days we’re not passing through. But it’s a resource, regardless.
  • Farmer’s markets are our best bet when we can find them. We stock up on things like freezable meat and cheese when we can.
  • Green People helps us find local (and sometimes tiny) health food stores, especially useful for resupplying things like gluten-free items.
  • Connecting with locals has been key. They know the farms and farmers and neighbors with an abundance of backyard chickens.
  • When we have no other option but a nearby Walmart, here’s what we choose:
    • avoid the Dirty Dozen
    • avoid any animal products
    • choose lots of fruits and veggies (occasionally we can find organic items, like greens or tomatoes)
    • choose unprocessed grains, like rice or quinoa
    • Zeb and Justin have found the few loaves of bread free of HFCS (Nature’s Own and Oroweat)
    • comb the aisles for the occasional display of organic or gluten-free “specialty” items

Of course we also have to meet the needs of a very selective 11 year old, a gluten-free eater and, well, Justin will eat whatever. Some examples of our most common meals:

  • Rice and veggies (can’t get much more simple than that)
  • Salads with pastured chicken
  • Gluten-free pasta with either spaghetti sauce and grass-fed beef, or my personal fave, cooked greens, cooked cherry tomatoes and feta cheese.
  • Grilled cheese and tomato soup (I tend to just eat the soup)
  • Tacos! Everybody loves tacos and they can include beans or pastured meat depending on availability

There are some things we have little option over with such a small space. We obviously don’t grow our own food. ;) We don’t make a lot of soups or stocks, soaked grains or sprouted items. Perhaps if our kitchen space included a real counter we would.

It’s not as though any of these things would be impossible in an RV, even in our tiny RV. It’s that we’ve found we can eat whole, pastured and mostly unprocessed foods without the extra time or energy by keeping things simple. And with so much going on while we travel, we like simple a lot.

Do Real Foods Interest You?

Did you know that certain veggies shouldn’t been eaten raw in excess or things like tomatoes and other veggies can exacerbate joint issues? Are you interested in learning why meat should always be pastured, cholesterol and saturated fats are good for you and what constitutes Living Foods and Superfoods?

Food Renegade has a phenomenal learning tool for self-education. It was created with homeschooling kids in mind, but I found it useful for myself and learned so much I hadn’t known before. It really reaffirmed a few things I had been feeling, like why my body didn’t seem to like raw spinach. I don’t support it as a curriculum for kids who aren’t interested in learning about it, but I wholeheartedly support it as a resource for anyone wanting to know more about traditional foods, preparation and even how to eat real food on a budget.

Food Renegade is also offering a Fall E-Course for those interested in learning even more. Full of videos, materials and activities to engage you, the course promises to leave a lasting impression in a fun, dynamic way. Here’s a sneak peek:

Lesson 1:1 Food, Not Nutrients from FoodRenegade on Vimeo.

Again, it was originally designed for homeschooling kids in mind, but it’s open and welcoming to interested adults. Remember, Real Food advocates can be dogmatic, too! Read, research and learn for yourself and apply what fits your body.

And please: If you’re interested in having your kids learn this, but they aren’t interested, don’t force it. We all do what makes sense to our own bodies in any given moment and I find it crucial to validate our children where they are. But I highly recommend learning yourself! Be a life-long learner, soak up the information that is valuable to you and integrate it into your lives in a passionate (but not forceful) way! Be a conduit of information for your kids, bringing knowledge into your home and allowing them to gravitate toward it if it makes sense for them. :)

*These are affiliate links: resources, products or services I enjoy and recommend based on my personal standards. If you purchase from these links, you will help to support my family and my love for blogging at no additional cost to you. Thank you!

Stranded

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Does this look familiar?

Yeah, we’re broke down. This time we were just west of the New Mexico-Texas state line. With the help of a few friends and some prior knowledge, Justin’s pretty sure it’s the injector pump. Unfortunately that’s not something he can fix himself, especially on the side of the road. Thank goodness for roadside assistance! (Yes, we learned that lesson from the last time!)

Now we’re boondocking in a small town in eastern New Mexico, waiting for a service shop to open on Monday.

Overall, we’re taking it in stride. It may compromise our plans to make the BrickCon Lego conference in Seattle at the end of the month and it’s certainly not where we’d prefer to be, but it is what it is. And other than the annoying biting flies, we don’t feel too upset.

What we do feel is perplexed. This past week (since leaving the conference) has been one issue after fiasco after meltdown: torrential rains leading to six leaks and plenty of damage, Justin getting lost on his motorcycle, Zeb having a post-conference meltdown that we didn’t handle very well (feeling pretty meltdown-ish ourselves), and the story goes on. It’s making us all reevaluate our route, wondering if we’re heading in the wrong direction or maybe we just need to s l o w d o w n.

Towed

We got to sit in the back...on the driver's bed.
We got to sit in the back…on the driver’s bed. :/

So for now we’re being still, working on that radical acceptance thing and using this opportunity to breath in whatever it is we can from this situation. At least that’s where we are now; we’ll see how we’re all feeling in a few days. ;)

Current Location: small town in eastern New Mexico waiting on a fix.

Back To Madison

After leaving the Green Bay area, we made our way to Madison…again! But this time it was more business than fun. Thankfully our kind of business is pretty fun. ;)

We stayed with Justin’s gorgeous cousin and her husband and son, enjoyed some homecooked meals in the evenings and several trips to Madison farmer’s markets. It was so incredibly kind of them to open their home to us over the weekend, and I know Justin especially was really grateful for the time spent with them.

Justin and Little Mikey

I was also able to sneak in a bit of hooping with Denise and her family. I loved it! Being able to ask questions and even answer a few, and just have fun. I can’t wait to find more of these.

Hooping Class in Madison

We “commuted” during the day to Jennifer and Mark’s home not far away to do some work with them. I had the honor of initiating a brand new dready mama! Jennifer’s long beautiful locks had already been started, so we spent a few hours tightening up the existing and finishing up the rest of her head. Isn’t she just gorgeous with dreads? I can’t wait to see them take shape over the next few months.

New Dready Mama

Jennifers Baby Dreads

Perhaps the most fun was seeing and working on their very own 1982 Winnebago Brave! Look familiar?? Yup, that would be Benny’s big bro, sitting a little longer and with a much different layout. Justin really enjoyed doing repairs, comparing vintage quirks and getting Mark started on the rest of the refurbishing process.

Benny and The Other Brave

Justin and the other Brave

Ceiling Repairs

Mark is a baker and they are looking to start a unique and inspiring mobile venture across the US with their four children. I’m super excited to see how their family’s journey unfolds! Hopefully they’ll be starting that blog soon. Hint hint. ;)

Thank you both and good luck to you guys!

Current location: En route from OKC to Dallas for the Rethinking Everything conference!