12 Reasons Every Woman Needs a Tribe

I get asked all the time how it is we created such an unconventional life, and how it is we overcome the odds to make it happen.

And my answer is always the same:

I made the choice to make two things a priority first: space and time in my life to DIG IN and grow as a person, and tribes of support to encourage me, unstick me when I got stuck, love me when I couldn’t love myself, remind me of the important things when I forgot, inspire the snot out of me with the possibilities they were creating in their life, and call me on my shit (even when I didn’t really want them to).

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Tiffani Bearup and Me

I spent most of my life feeling fiercely independent and for much of the time lacking the depth of friendships I needed.

There were best friends I’ve had, and times when my sister and I were incredibly close. But even in those times I kept myself believing I had to be independent, “strong”and rock-steady – for myself and for them.

Then in an afternoon my life change.

Through a series of events I saw that I wasn’t allowing myself to receive, that I was making myself an island, causing myself more stress and loneliness than I realized and was burning myself out trying to be everything for everyone without giving anyone the joy of being something real for me.

And just like that my heart broke open and I began a journey of interdependence. And through it I have learned (and am learning) the importance of a tribe in a woman’s life, the importance of receiving support, and just how wonderful life is when we do.

It doesn’t matter that we travel full-time. I’ve still learned how to create a circle of women (and men) around me so that we can each individually, and together collectively, truly thrive.

Through this experience I’ve learned some reasons why women need powerful, purposeful and mindful tribes. Here’s what I’ve come to understand:

12 Reasons We Women Need Our Tribes


  1. We are inherently tribal. – We once lived in cultures where the women raised babies together, did laundry together, cooked together, and helped each other laugh through the ups and downs of life. We have evolved to be inter-dependent. It’s only in the last few decades that we’ve held up that Fierce Independence as the epitome of a strong woman. Well, if alone against the world is what makes you a great women, count me out. I’d rather feel great, than only look it.

  3. Your partner can’t be everything. – I used to lean on Justin for everything. It was a real bitch when we had a fight and he was the only person I had to talk to about it. For awhile there I even thought it wasn’t okay to talk to other women about our challenges. And in a way I still find that true; I don’t want a tribe that will help me complain about him. I want a tribe that will help me examine my triggers and overcome any barrier that keeps us from loving one another better. I also came to find that it was simply unfair to him to place every stress on his shoulders. He’s one man, who wants very hard to fix as much as he can to see me smile, and without more support in my life my husband was becoming heavy with the burden of being the only person I would turn to help me meet my deeper needs for connection, growth, fun, or help. That’s not healthy; that’s co-dependent.

  5. Your kids need a break from you. – Oh man, am I serious about this one. Especially because my son is an only child. Without my tribe of conscious mamas, from both local parenting groups with like-minded philosophies on life and parenting, to online tribes, to coaches who have helped me through rough spots, I’m pretty sure my son and I owe our relationship to the support I found in others. Without it I was constantly examining and analyzing every action my son took, worrying that I was doing something wrong (or he was), or just not giving him the space to just breathe, explore independently, or make his own choices without my fear trying to micro-manage, nag, control or stress him out. Having other mamas helped me to put things in perspective, lighten up and be a better mom more capable of responding to his needs with compassion and support.

  7. You are the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with. – You want to radically change your life? Surround yourself with examples that it’s possible. You want to live a deeper, more meaningful existence? Engage in deeper, more meaningful conversations with the people talking about deeper, more meaningful things. Don’t let the limitations of what those around you can do become your reality. Seek out possibilities, surround yourself with inspiration, and what seems impossible will soon become the only thing you know.

  9. Girls just wanna have fun. – Life gives us plenty of opportunity for stress, heartache, overwhelm or depression. It’s our job to counter those things with laughter, fun, and connection. Have you ever had a terrible day and called a girlfriend and you both ended up laughing at the utter ridiculousness of it all? Suddenly what you thought was going to do you in is not so bad when our tribe helps us to play and lighten up. And fun is a damn important thing in life. We have enough seriousness. We need more laughter and play.

  11. You need people who won’t let you off the hook. – I didn’t use to see this was true about myself. I’ve always thought I was pretty self-motivated. Until my tribe called me on my bullshit and helped me to see how I was giving up, playing small or rationalizing away my dreams. Because I allowed others to know what my real desires were – what my heart ached for – they were there to call attention to the ways I was neglecting them. It was not a pretty mirror they held up but it was a much needed view that helped me to confront my real barriers and catapult right past them.

  13. You need a safe place to land. – The world can be harsh. Have one terrible day and you could end up on YouTube being bashed by millions of people. Make a mistake and you probably have learned to do the bashing yourself. But the right tribe of women will open up a safe and sacred space for you to bring your cracked and weeping heart. They will wrap you in compassion and stillness and allow you to breathe and vent and process without judgment. They give you the nurturing and the encouragement to heal and grow and move forward again. I can’t tell you how powerful it is to know that a circle of women, some whom you haven’t even met, are waiting with open arms, whether you’re having a horrible day or your life has just been shattered.

  15. You can’t see your own blind spots. – I’ve already mentioned a few times how the tribes of women in my life will call my on my shit. And sometimes it really pisses me off. But without their intuitive ability to hold up that mirror to what I can’t see I would still be spinning my wheels in frustration over the patterns I couldn’t change. With the multiple perspectives and the collective wisdom a tribe of soulful, conscious women can be a catalyst for the most powerful personal growth.

  17. You’re can’t jump over buildings in a single bound. – Or any of the other impossible things we try to do on our own. You’re not Superwoman. You’re not a one woman roadshow. Stop trying to be perfect and infallible and so great that you never need anything. You! Need! Support!: practical, emotional, spiritual support. Whether you’ve just had a baby, or you are struggling with food, or you’re trying to manage a household, love a family, and run a business, for the love of all that is good in the world, ask for support. Trade support. Pay for support. You’re worth the investment.

  19. You’re going to drive yourself batshit crazy unless you do something for you once in awhile. – Nuff’ Said.

  21. You can’t give what you don’t allow yourself to receive. – This was my Aha moment when it came to receiving support. I can NOT give it if I don’t first have it. And it’s no one else’s job to know when I need it, or how I’d like to receive it. It’s my job to seek out the things that will meet my needs in such a way that I feel so filled up with love, energy, connection, passion, and everything else I might need that I am overflowing that back out to my family, my clients and the whole world.

  23. You deserve to receive a lot. – Women tend to have this idea that it’s great for other women to receive, “but oh no, not me.” “I couldn’t possibly take that from you.” “I can’t justify that for myself.” “I’d be selfish.” No. You won’t be selfish. You’re selfish when you continue to try to meet your needs in ways that aren’t effective. It wastes your time, energy, money, and capabilities. And you’re never helping others. But investing well in your own health, well-being, personal growth, mental clarity, stability and ability to do more in the world is anything but selfish. It’s imperative.

All of this is why I travel with a tribe, why I belong to an online tribe and why I facilitate tribes like the Organic Tribe.

It’s also why I’m offering the Organic Tribe, to include so much more for so much less…

The Organic Sister

:: 24/7 support from the Sisterhood forums
:: Monthly coaching circles to keep you moving
:: The Digging Deep toolbox to overcome barriers
:: The Organic Parenting e-course to help you be the vibrant mama you are
:: Every other digital product I have or create
:: Other bonuses: audios, freebie sessions, and discounts on consultations

…So that you can surround yourself with like-minded women who will support you, the coaching and tools to finally make the changes you want and a price that makes it possible.

The Tribe equals over $1,700…but for over 90% off

Membership is only $130 a year.

The best I could offer – everything I have – in the best sisterhood to offer it in.

Click here for all the details.

Introducing: The Organic Tribe!

* Do you find yourself needing a regular soul tune-up?

* In search of wisdom and reminders to keep you inspired?

* Are you ready to find the support of like-minded sisters?

* Do you want regular coaching at a super low rate?

Yippee! Wahoo! Yeehaw!

It’s taken much inspiration and organizing and it’s here: The Organic Tribe!

What in the heck is The Organic Tribe?!

I’ve had many mamas express the desire to continue some form of coaching with me on a regular basis.

They are looking for ongoing inspiration, and regular reminders to keep them centered and connected to their children, themselves and their passion and purpose.

And here it is!

The Organic Tribe is a twice-monthly coaching program at a very affordable rate.

Twice a month, you get to connect with me, fantastic guest speakers and other gorgeous souls to discuss the principles, the tools and the healing it takes to create the organic life and family you’re ready to create.

Our call topics will vary from:

  • Organic Parenting principles and tools
  • Self-healing methods
  • Creativity and purpose-driven living
  • Managing those challenging opportunities that come our way
  • Being the woman you know you are
  • Self-designing our own lives
  • Thriving, instead of just surviving!

Oh and the lineup is already so exciting! Special topics by me! Amazing guest authors! Powerful coaches and speakers! Just look at the next three months:

Thursday, August 18, 5pm Pacific

Overcoming Overwhelm: 7 Secrets to Accomplishing More Without the Stress We’re going to talk about what it *really* takes to stay centered and on track when your plate is full. This isn’t just time-management tools. This is the deep, soul work you know is really causing your stress.

Monday, August 29, 3pm Pacific

Un-Diagnosing Our Children with special guest, Marilyn Wedge, Ph.D. Join me in talking with family therapist and author of Suffer the Children: The Case Against Labeling and Medicating and an Effective Alternative while we discuss the problems of diagnosing and labeling our children with disorders and conditions and treating them with adult medications, and how her effective techniques can move you beyond the struggles and back into healthy family dynamics.

Thursday, September 15, Time TBA

3 Rules for Handling Meltdowns (Yours or Your Child’s!) Meltdowns are usually inconvenient, overwhelming and sometimes even embarrassing – and that’s just your own! We’re going to talk about what meltdowns really are, how to handle them in healthy ways and how to completely avoid them the next time.

Monday, September 26, Time TBA

Are You Parenting for Social Change? with guest author and advocate, Teresa Graham Brett We’re well aware of the issues around racism, religious discrimination and so on. But how many are aware that our parenting might not be supporting a society that treats all human beings as equal? In this call we’ll talk with author and parenting coach, Teresa Graham Brett, about the issues around parenting for social change and her book and website by the same title, Parenting for Social Change: Transform Childhood, Transform the World.

Monday, October 10 – Time TBA

Organic Partners: Three Rules to Creating the Relationship that Thrives 11 years later my husband and I still get butterflies for each other. We’re are wildly in love and deeply dedicated to embracing what this partnership is. But it hasn’t always been this way. Join me (and maybe even Justin! – he’s pretty quiet though, so no promises 😉 ) as I talk about what we see has created our worst years and what shifted our struggles into moments of deep connection and partnership.

2nd October Call TBA

Following Your Passions Into Business with my coach, Heather Madder! I’m so excited to connect you with my life and business coach, Heather Madder, the Coach for Changemakers. Join us as we talk about your passions, your purpose and keeping your family first while you create a thriving business.

But wait! There’s more!

I just love saying that. 🙂

Okay, so here’s the deal: I’m working with a brand new assistant to create The Organic Sisterhood, an online gathering place for women, mamas and beautiful souls who are ready for their own sisterhood.

And each and every person who signs up for The Organic Tribe coaching will get lifetime access to this upcoming forum! 😀

So! Flipping! Exciting!

Normally 2 sessions of coaching with me would cost several hundreds dollars.

But this! This is so super affordable! My wish is that each and every one who needs the support, the inspiration and the tribe will be able to get that with The Organic Tribe.

Are you ready??

The very first call is NEXT WEEK! (*butterfly-inducing-abdominal-somersaults*)

Click here or the banner below for all the details and to sign up right away! Can’t wait to see you there!!